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Submitted by TheAccidentalSM on Sun, 03/01/2015 - 8:40am

This week I had a freak out at YSS. I got home late from the office after 15 hours at my desk, went into my bedroom to leave my stuff and found that he'd been in there. OK, he was trying to be nice by leaving a fortune cookie on my pillow but I've been very clear to him numerous times that he doesn't go into my room.

I don't go into his room and expect the same.

I don't care why but he should not cross the threshold.

So I told YSS yet again. "Thanks for thinking of me but don't ever go into my room". He was a little hurt but I don't care.

Depressing post so skip if you are feeling happy

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Submitted by TheAccidentalSM on Sat, 02/21/2015 - 10:15am

There have been a few blogs recently about sexual assault. Dtzy's SIL springs to mind and another post about a skid taking a younger nieghbourhood child into the woods.

Here's my take on assault.

About two years ago, YSS told BM that OSS assulted/raped him 9/10 years ago. There are no exact dates but they were probably about 8/9 and 12/13 at the time of the alleged incident.

The world exploded.

Work pity party and wondering about CS

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Submitted by TheAccidentalSM on Sat, 02/14/2015 - 10:16am

Well my day is going SUPER well NOT. I'm sitting in the office doing work that really should be done by my team but it needs to get done before Monday so here I am. I also have to do a million and one things for the boss. I'll be here all until really late and I've done 60 hrs this week Mon to Fri. I'm beyond fed up. The worst thing is that I can't see this calming down in the forseeable. Mr Boss man has the great idea that I need to hire a senior team member to assist. NO, I don't need another "leader". I need worker bees. I'm depressed, tired and cried on my way in today.

Another question - How many BMs out there lied about their divorce?

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Submitted by TheAccidentalSM on Sat, 02/07/2015 - 9:29am

Many thoughts today. Need to get them out before they fester.

BM is our case is, as per my previous blog entry, mad. Nothing can ever be her fault.

YSS is now living with us. He and DH were having a chat about is coping skills, etc and YSS asked "Why did you leave Mom for TheAccidentalSM? It really hurt us" DH, who told me about it later, said he just sat there for a few seconds with his mouth hanging open is shock while he tried to think of what to say.

Why does BM always blame DH for everything?

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Submitted by TheAccidentalSM on Sat, 02/07/2015 - 9:15am

Does anyone else have this problem? The BM has been blaming DH for everything for years.

Just some of the things that he has "caused" are:

- Any bad behaviour by the 3 SSs
- Poor school results
- YSS mental health issues
- Her last divorce

She must be mad. She has sent ranting emails to DH over the years blaming him for this stuff. Luckily, he doesn't react and will only respond where necessary.

Giant leprechaun

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Submitted by TheAccidentalSM on Tue, 01/27/2015 - 6:39am

While the drama regarding YSS mental health rages on, its good to remember that we still have laughs.
DH and I were shopping and I spotted the ugliest giant leprechaun lounge suit/onsie. Jokingly, I suggested buying for YSS. Little did I imagine that DH would do just that. Seriously, this thing is fugly – violent green fleece with a hoodie with fake red hair and a tiny little green top hat sewn on.
We gave it to YSS when we got home and he was initially horrified but agreed to try it on for a laugh as long as we promised not to take a photo.

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