I so confused. I really don't understand why my stepsons idolize their BM. They haven't seen her in over a year, she clearly has made her choices in life and.it doesn't include.them. if my own mother abandoned me, then got with another man and started a new family in another state and only saw me.once a year (maybe) for a month (Max) I would feel so hurt. My you.test SS is always talking about when he was little his mom did this and that----um excuse.me-your mom left you when you were 7 months old because her and SO were fighting and she wanted to a kid free club head.

So after sending numberous texts to BM about her being a dead eat not giving money. She's finally decided to send some money here and there. She texted me the other asking for my bacnk account # so she drop money into my account. I told her that I don't feel comfortable giving her my.info>> she's been.screwing uncle Sam and public aid system.for.years.so I don't trust her. I told that she can send.money without using my account. Now she's saying that I have been asking for help and wont give her a way for her to give us .money. she is such a crazy bitch.

SO had a fight about money,stress the difficulties of me being a step-mom.well practically adopto-mom because BM maybe sees her boys once a year. I told SO that she needs to pay child support. She doesn't do any parenting,lives in California with her man and their 2 kids. The least she could do is send us money. Anything!! even $20 a week would help. SO that because she is such a dead beat who doesn't really care about her kids. He doesn't want anything from her. But yet he lets her call his phone to talk to the boys 2x-3x a week. Why??? If she does nothing for them!!!!

BM calls 2-3xs a week to talk to her boys. She has not seen them.since July.2010. She doesn't help financially..I had to bug her to send.school supply money. Basically all she does as a parent is call on the phone. I think it does more damage. Why call if u can't do anything as a parent??? To me if I was SS9 I would feel sad if I talked to BM but never saw her. But then again he's never been with her for.more than a couple months. Maybe he doesn't have that connection to her. I'm just sick of her calling.