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Hate it when I lose my sanity, and crawl through the muckity muck filled gutter to BM's level....

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Submitted by WeddedBliss.sofar on Wed, 09/14/2011 - 1:52pm

Got into a texting war with BM last night regarding SD10 taking her allergy pills.

I hate texting - except to DH - you know, those sweet "love you" texts, or the }:) naughty }:) ones.

I prefer face-to-face battles.

All I can say is: she started it. How stupid does that make me sound? VERY stupid AND childish AND extremely immature, petty, and did I say Stupid?

I won't go into any more details regarding the "gist" of this pathetic war. It's a conversation BM and I have had before, (too many times) - and I hate RE-RUNS!

Needless to say, today I feel no victory, no sense of accomplishment, and as long as SD10 takes her allergy pill every day that she is HERE - that's all that matters to me.
What bugs me the most, is that BM must think that DH has his head up his a$$ all the time, because today, she forwarded all of my responses to her texts to his cell phone. Although, he was standing right next to me the whole time the war was going on. I just don't get it?? Is she trying to get DH to defend her? To feel sorry for her? Does she think he's gonna yell at me? Or spank me? }:) Wink hahahaha

Anyways, all's well that ends well. Gotta go pretty myself up for when DH gets home.
I think I've earned a good spanking!! Wink

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Submitted by SteppingUp on Wed, 09/14/2011 - 2:27pm

I think what bothers me the MOST about text arguments is that it's soooo hard to let the other person have the last word, becuase it seems to glare at you that they "won" and you didn't! HAHA...like you said...stupid...but true.

And I think you nailed it too...usually neither side truly feels victory. FDH and BM can go round and round in a text war and come out with nothing in the end. That's what happened the other day with them, and it was about me, and I ended up confronting BM about it all IN PERSON and it was sooo much better than text war. (Blogged about my "throw down" with BM the other day Smile )

And YES she is trying to "tell on you" to DH. Did you compare them and see if she took out any words or added thingS?? Smile

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Submitted by SteppingUp on Wed, 09/14/2011 - 2:41pm

I know what you mean abou tthe type of person your DH is. There are lots of people like that and it totally bothers some people with texting!

PS, I'm 27 Smile

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Submitted by WeddedBliss.sofar on Wed, 09/14/2011 - 2:44pm

I haven't seen his cell yet, but DH saw every text last night, so I'm not even sure he took the time to read everything she forwarded to him today.

I have asked BM to sit down and talk to me, and she always says she thinks it's a good idea, but it never seems to happen. I think she's afraid to sit down and talk to me because she knows I will bring up every nasty thing she has done, including all her neglectful actions toward the skids (that list is long!).

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Submitted by BSgoinon on Wed, 09/14/2011 - 3:55pm

I think it is hilarious when BM forwards texts from me to DH. Because DH doesn't read any of what she sends her and just replies something along the lines of "seriously, tattling on my wife? As though I haven't talked to her and know exactly what is going on already? Wasting your energy BM".

I love it when he reminds her that he and I COMMUNICATE. You know, we live together, eat together, SLEEP together. He doesn't need her to fill him in on ME, his WIFE. Stupid stupid women. As though we would say something to her that #1 DH doesn't already know, and #2 DH doesn't feel as well!!

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Submitted by hismineandours on Wed, 09/14/2011 - 6:16pm

I have never texted bm-but some years ago I did call her and leave her a brief message (after she had called me around 50 times that day including and up until midnight). This while my dh was in Iraq.

I told her that I would appreciate if she would please stop calling repeatedly and tying up my phone line. I also told her I would appreciate if she did not call after 9pm or so because the small children were in bed. Then, I said, Thank you.

When dh came home a month later-she repeatedly offered to let him listen to this message she had saved. He kept saying no thanx. I had a hard time understanding why she had saved it and wanted dh to hear it so badly-i literally said thank you and please to her. Strangely, enough my ss13 just pulled this same stunt many years later. I sent him a facebook message in response to him telling my dh that he wanted to spend the weekend with ME and my kids (dh out of town). I asked him to explain why he had a change of heart (he has spent years saying how much he hates me and the kids) and then told him if he really wanted to come up and spend the weekend then alot of things would need to change as I didnt like the disrespectful behavior he displayed in the past. Then I told him to message me back so we could discuss it. He never replied and waited 2 months until dh got home-to go tell all of dh's family and dh about the "nasty" messages I sent him on facebook that he had saved. He offered repeatedly to show dh-he even offered to show ME! I told him I didnt need him to show me as I wrote the dang thing and I knew there was nothing "nasty" in it. That it was an honest communication and not rude or inappropriate in anyway.

I guess it just goes to show how people perceive things differently. I have learned over the years that if I open my mouth at all my ss seems to believe I am spewing evilness in his direction. So I just rarely speak to him. Makes it alot harder for him to twist my words and go running back to others to complain about things I've said.

I try VERY hard to think about what I say and never say things I regret. For me, It's not even about the other person but rather my own self-respect and behaving in a way that is true and honorable to myself. But, hey, I understand we all make mistakes sometimes and I've got to admit there are many times I would love to tear into bm or ss.