On numerous occasions dh and I have had to take the kids to a bio family event because bm didnt mention it was happening or switched weekends with us so the kids could attend. Her excuse is, if an event falls ob your weekend you take them it it falls on mine i take them. However, its her "family" that is having the event. Like sn anniversary, a birthday party, etc. This has happened about 7x in the past 10 months! Its redicilous I think and dh agrees! First, she is not suppose to interfere with his visitations and second she doesn't even attend the events herself!!

I'm suprised! My SD11 has turned over a new leaf! She has decided (for now) to LOVE ME!!!

She has greeted me with kisses, hugs and smiles. She has opened up to me and talked about her day and other things without it being a 15 questions 1 answer deal. Though she still has the attitude at times, she has completely and totally changed. Here is what happened and what I think made the difference.

We have labeled something we call the "witching hour" (the time, usually at or before dinner when skids know they are suppose to go back to BM house). But a WICHTING DAY!!! ugh!!!

I'm a BM to a girl (now an adult living on her own) and a new stepmom to two girls 11 & 6. Yes, I'm doing it all over again! I was thinking today, I know for a fact that I was not like the bm of my SDs. I was not in anyway shape or form vindictive, mean, manipulative, abusive, or anything SDs bm has been and continues to be. Not once (well maybe a lot in my head) did I say anything to my daughter about her father or his family! Maybe it was because I was young and hadn't come into my own.