So bm calls dh last weekend to asked, "i know you are paying cs but can you buy ss6 a pair of shoes for school" now normally that would not be a prob except for the fact that ss6 is not really dh's son. he "assumed" the role of daddy for the short time they were together because dh and bm had a son together and ss6 did not have a father figure. they split up when ss6 was about 1 year old. he comes to our house eow with ss9 but for the past few months, he does not want to come over anymore. bm makes the little boy come but after a few hours he is crying to go home and the whole time he's there he calls dh by his real name then quickly corrects himself and calls him daddy. ss9 gets jealous and tells his daddy regularly that he doesnt like to share him and that ss6 has his own dad. however, ss6's own dad is in and out of prison...now i keep my mouth shut about the whole situation becuase if they want a relationship i will not stand in the way but when it's obvious that the little boy doesnt want to come to our home anymore, why force it? anyway, a while back dh decided he was not going to get the little boy anymore. bm has a new man and he felt like he was confusing him with different daddy's. idk i kept my mouth shut. during the period of us not getting ss6 bm called me and told me that she was going to change his last name to dh's last name and informed me that she would not put child support on him though...i'm like yeah you couldnt even if you wanted to!! lol anyway so back to the call the other day, dh tells her he would talk to her later about it and hung up. she kept calling and calling asking what he was doing, why he could talk about it then, etc. dh feels like he shouldnt have to support this child monetarily especially when he has 3 bio kids to support (2 with me). he said he doesnt mind that after she has gotten all his son's things and has money left over from cs to buy ss6 what he needed but he feels he shouldnt give her any more money. i totally agree!! especially since the girl does not have a job. i'm sorry but dh and i both work to make sure our kids have things they need. she should do the same! she knew school was starting soon, and she still has time to find a job and make a couple of bucks to buy her child some shoes for school! and to top it off, ss9 is in a wedding for one of her family members and she's buying him some shoes especially for that ocassion and her a new dress (info via fb) so how does she have money to buy those things and not her kid some shoes for school? it pisses me off that i work hard for my family and she is lazy and expects us to take from our household and give to her so she can sit at home all day and do nothing. i sure hope dh doesnt fall for her guilt trip!! just had to vent...i feel better now