We were SUPER worried about BM2... because she is a psycho bitch but when DH told her we were expecting, she congratulated us. Then when I was about 7 months pregnant I ran into her outside the Dr.'s office and she stopped me (to apologize for some past fruitcake behavior on her part) and told me she wished us the best, and was happy for us.. blah blah blah. I honestly didn't believe a word she said, because she is just that much of a crazy ass bitch... but whatever.

BS will be 3 in a couple of months and to my knowledge she has never said anything derogatory about his presence in this world. (now, I take that with a grain of salt, because I do believe that if she ever did dare say something off color... DH would NEVER tell me, because he knows I would probably rip her face off and shove it up her butthole)

Your skid is a lot younger than mine were though... mine were 10 and 11 and they really couldn't have cared either way. As much as I can't stand either skid, they have always both been really good with BS, they seem to like/tolerate him. Love him??? Don't know if I'd go that far, but I'm ok with like/tolerate.

......and congrats!!!

DH and I don't have a child together, but wanted to say CONGRATS!!

First of all, congrats to you and DH! Exciting news.

BM lost her damn mind when she found out earlier this summer that I'm pregnant with our first baby. We told the skids a couple of weeks before the end of my first trimester, so of course when they went back and told their mother they were excited about having a new baby brother or sister, she was livid (even though in the last year of her marriage to DH, she got pregnant then had an abortion saying she couldn't handle another one).

BM ended up calling DH about a week later after she heard the news, letting him know that she herself is expecting. When he simply congratulated her and asked why she was calling (he assumed it had something to do with his children), she lashed out at him saying that he didn't care about her at all and clearly she means nothing to him. Several months later, we've heard nothing more of the alleged pregnancy from her OR the skids, and she sure as hell isn't showing.

Hopefully your BM isn't on the crazy train like mine! Good luck.

We didn't tell the skids or BM, skids told us. Long story short, we were on vacation in Tahoe with the skids, all 5, 1 daughter-in-law and 2 girl friends. Oldest was 25, youngest 13. I did a test and left it in our bathroom. It was back when the test had to sit for an hour or so. We went for a walk, and was going to meet all the skids for breakfast (was going to check test when we got back from breakfast). When we got to the restaurant they were all grinning, and then they told me I was pregnant. One of them went in to use our bathroom and saw the test, and then of course, they all saw it. They were happy, they told BM and no big deal. She was always very considerate of our daughter and always remembered her at XMAS.

We didn't tell SD then 8 until I was 3 months pregnant & left it up to her to tell BM. Ofcorse she did within 1 millisecond of going back to BM's place. BM never said anything direct to us but you would know a few things were said as SD would come back to our place saying stuff like "your baby is only my HALF brother" etc, etc. SD now calls our son her brother & doesn't use the word half. I don't care either way but it seems BM has given up on trying to influence SD in regards to it all.

The day before I went into hospital BM had child services contact DH as she was going to file for CS. We have SD 50/50 & we pay for ALLof her school fees (& mind you she goes to a private school so it's A LOT but we are changing that!) as BM cries poor & can't afford anything. It's BS as she can afford holidays, expensive clothes for both her & SD, new cars etc. She ended up dropping the claim & who knows why. Pretty indecent I think - the day before we were having a baby! Not that she knew exactly when the baby was due but she knew the timing as we had to ask her that if needed could she take SD if the baby came early etc.