Last week I vented about DH seeming to be "sick" all the time and staying home from work. Well I ended up being the b*^$# in this situation because when I got home I checked his temperature and he had a low grade fever see the blog post here:

https://www.steptalk.org/blog/ksmom14/just-looking-vent-dh-sick-again-25...

So long story short, I lightened up a bit and just rolled with it, that gives him a valid excuse for this event, but not all the others so whatever. Well he still hasn't been feeling 100% and this morning stayed in bed late again. When I asked him if he was going to work he said he was going to take it slow and go in late and asked me to take SD13 to school. Thank goodness I saw this coming and had already been making sure the skids were up and out of bed. I called to SD13, let her know she was going with me today and reminded her to be on time. 

7:30 rolls around and she's not downstairs, so I called out that she's late at 7:32 I collected my things and DDs and walked out the door calling out "SD13 I'm leaving". 

SD13 comes running out 4 minutes later (literally a moment before I was about to drive off after getting DDs buckedled in and STILL waiting for her) with her shoes in hand, her backpack and no lunch. She's upset and I learned that 1. she didn't have time to make a lunch (sorry not sorry - welcome to natural consequences) and 2. DH apparantly took her phone away on her way out the door (OMG DH actually followed thru with a consequnce for once!!! I'm floored). 

I probably should have just left it alone but I talked to her on the way to school about being on time. She mentioned she's upset because DH yelled at her and I calmly explained that sometimes when you ask someone to do something OVER AND OVER AND OVER AND OVER again and they still don't do it, it's frustrating so yes yelling happens sometimes. Went into the explanation about how I cannot be late for work, and her being late makes me late, and how this is learning experince for her when she's an adult and needs to be on time for work. Apparantly SD13 doesn't understand why she needs to be ontime now because she won't need to be when she moves out, when I asked why she wouldn't need to be on time she said because she'd be living on her own. Had to explain to her if she's living on her own, then she has a job, if she has a job, then yes she needs to be there on time. 

Anyways this went back and forth for a bit, I just tried to stay calm but explain things in a way that MIGHT make it thru the thick teenage "woah is me" attitude. Then right before I dropped her off I said something along the lines of "I know it's been a rough morning, but it doesn't have to ruin your whole day, try to not let it get you down". When I stopped to let her out I said "goodbye, have a good day, love you" she did not respond at all, the whole time DD3 was saying "bye SD13" over and over....SD13 no response, closed the door and walked away. 

DD3 was so upset, literally almost crying because SD13 didn't respond to her. I know it's a teenage thing, but how on earth do you explain that to a 3 year old?! She already basically ignores both DDs and thinks they're disgusting and is rude to them. I hate it, I hate that my DDs are growing up with someone in their home blatantly not liking or being nice to them.