The past few years it's been 50/50 besides about a year period in 2020 where SD17 ran to BM's because she didn't like that DH asked her to be kind to everyone in our house and acknowledge them.

She went to summer school for a couple weeks in the begining of this summer but we have not seen her since then, about 4 weeks. Oh except for the 2 night she stayed with us because SD18 brought her into town for her dentist appointment and couldn't bring her back for 2 nights since she was visiting a friend in town. Which she then puked on her bedding, left it on her bedroom floor, and told me about it after the fact so she didn't have to clean it up herself (see my other blog for that story). 

It's not that I necessarily need her here, honestly it's been calm and quiet, and non stressful. But it's just so rude to just not come visit and ignore us the whole summer. I fully expect that she will be sending us a message in a few weeks as school starts mid August, asking us how much money she can have for this year's new school clothes. I wonder if she will even come back to 50/50 during the school year. The specialized school she is in has all community college classes this grade which is at the site that is actually equal distance between our house and BM's house. Now that BM got her a car, I wonder if we're just done seeing her and she'll stay at BM's and drive to school every day. 

I think it's the not knowing that bothers me...the thought that the whole summer we're not good enough to come see, but I'm expecting her to come asking for stuff as soon as she needs something. Sorry I know I'm rambling, it just drives me nuts and DH likes to just stick his head in the sand and ignore it until there is something in his face he has to deal with so I can't really vent to him, or talk things out.

Oh and her 17th birthday is in 4 days...a few months ago she wanted colored contacts and they were out of coverage so we said we'd cover them as her birthday gift. Really wish we hadn't done that, I want to give her nothing