SD13 wasting food
My parents came in town last Friday to babysit DS2 while DH and I went to a concert. I ordered my parents Chipotle to be delivered so they would not have to worry about making dinner and also a thank you for babysitting. SD13 was also at our house so I asked her if she wanted me to order her dinner too. I typically would not order her food too, but would have felt bad if I didn't.
Anyway, of course she asks for steak (most expensive). Never says thank you. When it arrives she decided to eat first and not wait to eat with my parents (fine, but kind of rude IMO). She then proceeds to tell DH that there is a piece of onion in her meal and she didn't order veggies. So SD13 completely wastes it and refuses to eat after she saw the onion. Ugh, seriously? It was at least $15. DH told her to just pick it out (literally one piece) but she didn't want to.
Yet another reason I told myself this is EXACTLY why I disengage. I didn't say anything to DH. Maybe I should have? But next time I will definitely NOT be ordering and remind everyone that we wasted a steak meal over a piece of onion. Would any of you just not have ordered in the first place? Would you have said something to DH about wasting? I'm just annoyed.
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The next time
She can have PB&J . Whether or not anyone orders food. I would casually mention to DH that SD does not like steak anymore since she threw out. Let SD explain why she doesn't like steak.
No more ordering food for her.
I'd have refused to order the
I'd have refused to order the steak and told her she could order whatever dish she wanted providing it didn't cost more than X dollars. Start putting a cap on what she can do.
This!
She's 13 years old. If your DH can't put some parameters on his kid, then you do it. I had to deal with the same crap years ago...take kids out, buy the most expensive item on menu, and then leave over half on the table to be thrown away. I stopped that behavior when DH would not. But since she wasted the food on this go-round, next time, I would NOT order anything for her. "Since you didn't eat half of your expensive meal last time, it's best you pick something out of the fridge that we know you like." And be done with that.
I HATE wasting food
I probabably would have done the same as you, but I would have said something to DH for sure. I'm not sure why I have this guilt about excluding skids, I actually know people who would feed their 5 bio kids at home and then go out to eat while the kids sat there and didn't get to eat the restaurant food. Savage. lol.
SD14 doesn't give 1 single f*ck about wasting food. She will take a bite of something and be prepared to throw the whole thing in the trash because she "didn't really like it" , or "wasn't that hungry". Drives me insane and I let her know it's not ok, but when DH and Crazy let her, she doesn't care what I say.
These brats
Should get a one way ticket to Zimbabwe. I was always taught wasting food including taking more than you can eat is a sin.
That's so annoying. I get
That's so annoying. I get annoyed when my 4-year-old SS wastes food and I make him save it as leftovers for tomorrow. I would have picked out the onion and told her this is her dinner leftovers for tomorrow, otherwise make yourself a PB&J.
I would have ordered for her
I would have ordered for her initially - I wouldn't order food for some without ordering for all unless there was a specific reason not to. I would have been ok with her ordering steak over chicken - it's not a big price difference, so not a huge deal to me to spend $1 to get what she prefers. I would NOT have been ok with her wasting it because of one onion, and as a result I would hesitate to order for her next time. Whether I'd have said anything to DH would depend on what his typical reaction to such a thing would be. If he typically defends SD no matter what, I wouldn't waste my breath. I'd remember it, though. Also, wasn't he there to see her waste it? Did he do anything about it?
Nothing annoys me more than
Nothing annoys me more than someone ordering an expensive menu item on someone else's dime. It's rude. We had to subtly discourage Little Idiot or she'd be ordering lobster every chance she got. Now that she's on her pen she regularly drops $70 on a single seafood meal. It's insane. If they have expensive tastes don't expect it to change.
I would have picked the order
I would have picked the order for her based on my budget. She clearly isnt mature enough to understand that when you are invited, you usually pick the cheapest or most budget friendly option so as to not inconvenience your generous host. Next time, you should just tell her "i am ordering food, if you want i can get you *insert affordable option*? Let me know". If she asks for something else just lie and say its sold out
OSD was like that but it was
OSD was like that but it was ANYTHING GREEN or ANYTHING veg. Total nightmare. I just never went out with them for food and if we were cooking at home we had to make sure all veg was separate. She did/does have an eating disorder (it's a real thing). Eventually I opted out of any cooking for the SDs if they were with us, still do with SD17. DH gets to deal with the veg/vegan thing since he doesn't give YSD any responsibility for her choices.
No more ordering for her again. Ever.
Past behavior being the best predictor of future behavior,
I would not have ordered her food. She can TopRamen for dinner.
You said you knew it was a mistake. Just make sure you don't repeat that mistake.
If SD and daddy cry about it, for sure remind them of the wasted steak dinner due to an onion sliver.