Trial in 3 weeks - BM Attorney Motions to Withdraw

I cannot make this stuff up.

BM placement has been suspended since June 15th. She stopped communicating with the Custody Study Evaluator and has been in contempt of the order to participate. The evaluator canceled the BM home visit and other meetings because she refused to respond to any phone calls or communications - it won't be a complete study. We are waiting for the report any moment now - should be an interesting read. SO has reached out to BM on OFW about her needing to contact her attorney to come up with a plan so that SD can see BM (even though this is mostly for show - we are SO GLAD SD is not seeing her mother). BM is stonewalling and not reading or opening his OFW messages (contempt). If not for the occasional calls between SD and BM, no one would know if BM was alive.

Last week, SO took his kiddo to her Dr appointment (took off work, made the 50 minute drive) only to arrive to find out BM had canceled the appointment three days prior and never told SO. The woman then had the nerve to ask kiddo "did you have a Dr appointment today?" later that night during a phone call (SO has been recording all phone calls with SD permission since the placement suspension). Wild!! Email sent to the GAL and SO's attorney who reached out to BM attorney (who has also been non-responsive to communications since end of June).

On Friday we got word that BM attorney filed a motion wo withdraw. In the supporting court documents, BM is behind on her payments and is clearly not communicating with her. Kind of surprised this didn't happen months ago.....but now NOTHING will happen until the trial date. We were kind of hoping this could get settled before going to trial to save EVERYONE time and money - but that is out the window! We don't even know if BM will show up for court!!

I am crossing my fingers that the judge will have no mercy on this behavior and order her to pay his attorney fees (which she'll never pay, but its the principal of it all) - or stop maintenance support - or jail....something! It makes me ill to think that this woman may very well suffer ZERO consequences for this ridiculous stunt...for the harm she has caused he own child, for dragging my SO back to court, making him drop thousands of dollars.

The silver lining in all of this I suppose is that my SD is away from her mother's toxic behavior...and we can all start to heal and move on with our lives without this constant drama!

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We dealt with a drug addict

We dealt with a drug addict BM, first lawyer who dropped her did it in the middle of court with her second ex. Basically, stood up and said that they were having a breakdown in communication and walked. Second lawyer she had lasted a bit longer, but then withdrew, due a break down in communication. Third lawyer showed up for court then excused himself due to lack of payment. Turns out if you keep lying to your lawyers about getting arrested and not paying them, they stop working for you…sexual favors are not what they are looking for. Despite all this Meth Mouth still managed to drag my DH into court every 3-6 months for seven years. I blame the court system for not telling her flat out she was never getting her kid back, but I also understand the courts like cases like this, it keeps their gravy train rolling.

Please don't count on the court punishing her in any way.

Please don't count on the court punishing her in any way. If full custody is what you want, then concentrate on getting that, even if you have to give up things like BM paying court costs. It is better to let those things slide if it helps you get what you really want. I do understand the unfairness and the frustration!

"I am crossing my fingers

"I am crossing my fingers that the judge will have no mercy on this behavior and order her to pay his attorney fees (which she'll never pay, but its the principal of it all)."

My DH had a very HC, mentally ill BM. In the custody battle, she made accusations of rape, assault causing a miscarriage, stalking, and child abuse against him. Yes, THAT sort of BM. She also had a habit of skipping court appearances.

We made sure our attorney went on the record with proof of her lies. It was expensive but necessary, as DH worked in law enforcement - thankfully in a secured facility with lots of carmeras during the times of the alleged attacks lol. We also requested and were awarded a judgement against BM for the missed appearances. That judgement, and a c.s. order, proved to be the two most effective weapons to keep BM away as she moved out of state to avoid paying. We never got a dime from her, but the total silence from her was priceless.

Silence is what we so badly want!

Compensation would be nice....but if she dropped off the face of the earth....priceless.

Best of luck

You must partition the court that, Life must go on, kids have to live, BM can not be screwing up everything and the kids have to suffer. You must check on all appointments, call the DR'S office to confirm the appointment. That you will be taking her and only you can change that appointment.