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Is it bad that I love my pets more than skids?

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Submitted by .Em. on Sat, 01/18/2014 - 9:51pm

I've had one of my cat's for 9 years (before SO) and the other for little over a year. I honestly feel like I love my pets more way than the skids. Is that bad? Please tell me I'm not the only one, because then I would feel really horrible. But my cat's are like my babies (and he knows this). The only babies I have for now.
SO isn't really fond of my cat's, but he puts up with them because they're mine. But I feel the same way as he does towards my cats, when I have the skids around.
I don't expect him to adore and love my pets, so he shouldn't expect me to adore and love his kids.
I don't dare say anything like that infront of him though. He would go crazy.

Am I the only one that loves their pets more than the skids?

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Submitted by Sootica on Sun, 01/19/2014 - 6:45am

I definitely love my 4 cats more than skid. I don't wish skid any harm towards SS12 but I feel towards him like any other kid in the neighbour, make sure he is safe but don't go out of my way for him (not anymore after it being thrown back in my face time and again). Once when we were having an argument my DH did say " you love the cats more than skid" & I was so mad at this point in the argument that I blurted out "you know what actually I do!And let me tell you the reasons why:

1. My cats cover up their mess when they use their litter tray unlike SS12 who still has to be reminded to flush after using the loo
2. My cats clean themselves after going in the litter tray unlike SS12 who has to be reminded to wash his hands after being in the bathroom.
3. My cats eat what they are given & don't whine "but I don't feel like this for dinner daaaaaaddy!"
4. My cats run to the door to greet me when I've been out unlike SS12 who will grunt something that is suppose to pass as a greeting.
5. My cats have beautiful little faces & are not the carbon copy of BM
6. I CHOSE to have my cats I did not choose to have skid."

Well let's just say DH was speechless after that rant & has never dared to bring this up again & you know what I felt really good afterwards because it was out in the open & I didn't have to pretend anymore.

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Submitted by Pinki3663 on Sun, 01/19/2014 - 8:09am

Nope I have two dogs. An english mastiff and a great dane and I love them more than anything. We jumped through all the stupid hoops that SD(then 7) was throwing about the dogs. EOW. was crying hiding screeching when my mastiff would so much as sniff her. I finally got fed up when I came home one day to find my dog gated in the kitchen I flipped and told dh and SD that this was my dogs home, not theirs and if they couldn't adjust immediately to a big dog they could both leave.

I have always had a special fondness for all animals. They will always be more important to me in my home.

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Submitted by PetStr on Sun, 01/19/2014 - 10:43am

I feel the same way. My dogs, cats and parrot are way more important to me than the Hellspawn. One of my dogs is 15. She has congestive heart failure, takes meds daily and can no longer use the doggie door so she has puppy pads in the kitchen. DH finds it disgusting and kept telling me I needed to put her down because she won't go out to do her business. So I said ok, sure and while we're at it, let's have both SS10 and SS9 killed too because they both pee on the seat and all over the floor around the toilet, they never flush and stink up the whole house with toilets full of crap, and neither, one of them wipes their butts and their crusty, smelly, shitty underwear is always left on the floor .... That put an end to my "dirty dog" conversation.

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Submitted by .Em. on Sun, 01/19/2014 - 10:59am

SO told me once that my cats don't listen. That when he tells my 1yr old kitty to stop scratching the couch, he wont. I said "Well... Do the skids listen to me when I say something? Do they automatically listen to you when being told what to do?". They are capable human beings who have ears and can definetely comprehend what is being said. So, in my opinion... With a little bit more practice and some scartching post (which we already have) kitty will stop scratching the couch. Skids? They wont ever learn how to listen. Ugh.

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Submitted by AngelOfMisery on Sun, 01/19/2014 - 4:08pm

I love my dogs more then my SD's WHy? because my dogs are mine! I can discipline them without someone else's belief system.
If I ever had a child I would love my child more then the steps.... but of course I would. That child would be my flesh an blood discipline in my way.

I will never get the same respect from the steps. I am really nothing to them. For some stupid reason my husband can't get that one through his head!