SD, B* and the Cat...(warning cat death)****
Gorgeous day here in middle US....gorgeous. We have been doing some yard work and were sprucing up the pet cemetary we have out back. Now..don't go getting all Stephen King on me...its just a small place we have buried SD's two hamsters. :) It's marked with a small brick.
Now as I said my sister is veterinarian and as such I have always had pets, cats,dogs, guinea pigs, hamster, gerbils, rabbits, birds...you get the point. I love my animals..I now have 3 dogs and 4 guinea pigs. I also take pet ownership very seriously, very. I just spent 5 weeks putting meds in a guinea pigs eye because he ulcerated it, three times a day. Ever try to wrangle a guinea pig to put stuff in their eye, its a challenge.
DH also loves pets but is allergic to cats....I mean ALLERGIC. I am as well but not have to go the ER kind of allergic. Dh is ER allergic.
Now Beaver tends to be somewhat lax in her pet care and aquires pets without thinking about the in/outs of taking care of said pet. She also would aquire them without talking to Dh.
Example: Beaver came home with a jack russell terrier that was a "wedding gift" I say this loosly because who give an animal for a "wedding gift". More like it was her friends dogs litter and Beaver just wanted the dog and DH had already said no since they were living in an apartment and weren't home alot. Needless to say, the dog wasn't trained, was bored and become a little psychotic mess.
Anyway, the cat. When DH left Beaver, he went and stayed at his mom and dads. Two days after DH left, all the while Beaver wanted to work it out, she went and took SS and they got him a cat. A cat...a thing that DH can not have. Now said cat was crated alot during the day and it hated the dog (not the pyschotic jack russell, that dog was long gone). Not to mention DH could not longer come to the house.
Beaver took both the dog and the cat to live with her when she left to go to her parents house. (It was freaking clown house here..in out in out). Now, the cat had become....well pyschotic and would scratch and bite anyone that tried to pet it. (See a theme here) SD HATED this cat because it was always mean to her. Plus it had an aversion to the litter box (maybe due to the constant crating).
A Few years later, late on aWednesday night we got a text to have the kids call Beaver..it was important. Oh joy...since it's like 9:30p.m. and the kids were already in bed
Seems the cat had been sick for awhile and Beaver was just hoping it would be ok. (spoiler..IT IS NEVER JUST GOING TO BE OK)
She finally took the cat the vets that afternoon, but the cat died while at the vets. (Did you catch that....IN THE AFTERNOON, not at night). She was calling the kids to tell them the cat had died. She told them cat died and then hung up.
Oh queue up the water works from SS. SD...her response."eh...I don't care. I didn't like that cat, it was mean". Holy tears batman...SS went nuts. Stop it SD...it was my cat. Sd..what you didn't like her either. She bit and scratched you.
Now..I am in no way saying the cat's death wasn't sad and tragic. Believe me, we felt awful the cat died and probably did from a lack of healthcare. My beef was with waiting till the kids bedtime to tell them about the cat's death and the fact she would see them in about 36 hours. The cat death could wait till she saw them. Not like the cat was going to come back to life or be less dead.She just called at bedtime to f'ck with DH and make the next 36 hours with the kids a nightmare from the emotional fall out.
The absolute ironic thing here..SD tried to use the cat as an excuse for her not doing her math....A YEAR LATER. She told the teacher she couldn't concentrate because her cat died. The teacher called all concerned until DH got SD on the phone to tell the teacher the cat had died over a year earlier.
I mean really who uses a pet death to troll their ex....Beaver that is who.