The weekend was starting off nicely, SO and I were on our way to a nice sushi dinner, and it happened so fast, in the blink of an eye, truly. A motorcycle was zipping right past us as we were turning right onto a busy street, and I had a premonition that something bad was about to happen. He flipped and his shoes flew in the air. Luckily he was still breathing as I called 911, and the ambulance was there less than 5 minutes later, along with a few police cars to direct the traffic.

SO and I were full of fish, sitting by the fire pit, enjoying some adult beverages and reviewing the accident. The car the cycle had crashed into had been the one right in front of us, and I had put my hand on SO's arm, telling him to watch out there was a speeding bike.

In the middle of this evening, SO receives a really long text from Winona SD18. She was begging to come to our house, during her time with BM, saying that the boyfriend had been drinking. She then details that he was being very rude, cursing at her, peeing with the bathroom door open, how gross it was. That the 49-yo boyfriend of BM flipped SD18 off, and called her a "c@$t". He was also acting strangely....while drunk. This is not new and different.

She then texts me - an exact copy of what she sent SO. My only response was that "I have absolutely no authority in these issues at all, that I am very sorry she is going through this."

She and I have been cautiously getting along, after everything that has happened. I made the decision to really and truly try, and that if I tried and it did not go well, then at least I can say that I tried, and that I was not always negative and against SD18 for no real reason. And surprisingly, she has been very responsive and pleasant back. She unblocked me from her ipod, so that is a start.

When she texted me about the Boyfriend, Tweedle, I really had mixed feelings. Winona lies constantly about everything, still. HIs name-calling was crossing the line, in my book, however I have said such things (not the c-word, but "lazy, mean, abusive", myself - I have been where Tweedle has been with SD18 wrt the arguing/attitude, however I have simply made an effort to learn and read and change my behavior.

But, having learned the truth of "you cannot care more than the parents", when SD18 told SO what transpired, his response to me was "ok, let them come over if it is really that bad and its not just Winona being all about drama." They never came over, I was then told everything was okay.

I suppose its just another "Girl Crying Wolf", however I am still having mixed feelings. I have always felt that you need to believe people when they feel they are being abused, but the things that I have seen Winona SD18 do to others has made me question this. She is not claiming abuse, more that all these bad things are happening at BM's when they drink. Almost like she is building a case to say "I need to stay with you guys full-time and not pay rent, like dad has required." SO has told her that it will be 50-50 visitation schedule until she can get a job and pay some rent.

She has done this before, and gotten her way, and lived with us full-time, until she needed to color her hair at moms...or she just felt like too much was being asked of her at our place. I called her the "boomerang child".

I am also questioning whether or not what she claims was said was really said. Wouldn't the BM get really mad and say something? According to SO, if things were really as bad as Winona said they were, then BM would have shuttled them over, without hesitation.

The rest of the weekend went without a hitch. SD18 went to prom, and then took off for the spring break with her grandparents. No further drama.