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I am kinda saddened. I post here as a biomom not a step today and it is a rush to save poor abused BF. even when I am asking if I am wrong it is jump on BM.
Ladies come on!!!!
I am a stepmom, a biomom and soooo much more
Not all BMs are crap, not all BFs give a shit!!
So I'm a golden uterus
So I'm a golden uterus because I am trying to follow a court order that removed dads legal rights to the children??
Sorry, he doesn't have the right to know everything. Only what I am ordered to tell him. Sounds to me like you believe parents that lose custody over their own behavior still have rights to do whatever they want.
We are talking about little people here not property. I am sorry you feel you DH got screwed out of his kids, but if he lost physical custody of the children there IS a reason. Weather he wants to tell u what it is or not. This BF had me convinced his 1st ex was doing the same to him, guess what?? He never even tried with his 19 yr old. BM and I did everything. He got mad at kid for not calling on Father's Day or his birthday but hasn't called her on her birthday in 5 yrs. children or not, you get back what you put into relationships. Children aren't stupid!!!!
If your DH really cared he would fight for joint physical.
Okay, we'll this is a
Okay, we'll this is a first!!! I'm treating them like property for following a court order and a RO.
Sorry that everyone is so antiBM that all they see is poor dad.
Dad lost his rights. It isn't me not sharing, it is dad had things taken away for his bad behavior.
BF in this case only cares when he can go after me. He tells the kids I'm worthless, SO is a piece of shit, I'm a whore, any thing that pops in his head. Kids are in counseling to determine if BF even gets to keep any rights to the kids. Dad has been caught in 7 lies by the judge. BF argued with the judge over having a right to my address because of the kids until the judge final told him to shut up and accept what comes along with the RO he caused.
He has the right to leave me alone.
He has the right to see his kids for now
He has the right to move on with his life
He does NOT have the right to emotional abuse our children
He does NOT have the right to medical, educational, or major dessions with the kids.
SM are told all the time BF should follow the court order and nothing more, flip side, BMs should bend over backwards for BF?? Don't think so
(((())) BF sounds like an
(((()))
BF sounds like an ass.
No, you didn't. It was
No, you didn't. It was others.
I am wondering how I am violating the order if the order says monthly email by the 1st of the month of all up coming regular doctor appointments. If there is nothing set up on the first and I have nothing to email how is not emailing him violating it??
Okay, I get that!!! Thank
Okay, I get that!!! Thank you!!
^^ I think this is the best
Clebel you are really harsh.
Clebel you are really harsh. Your above comment prompted me to find biomom's first post regarding keeping her ex informed of upcoming appointments etc. I too came out of a violent marriage with two kids and a restraining order in tow. Having said that my ex was a fantastic father but a shitty controlling husband. We also have court orders in place that require specific communication modes. I follow them because I have too. Still he persists on picking the eyes out of everything I do trying to undermine me and find an in road for the kill.
Biomom I agree with a lot of the posters on you previous thread.... just inform him on the first of the month that there will be counselling appointments dates yet to be confirmed let him know then "if you are in agreeance I will provide you with outcomes of such in next month with my email" if he requires updating more regularly, ie wants to know the specific date and outcome as it occurs, get it in writing from him that it is ok by him for you to send more than the one email per month. Any other crap designed to hurt,alienate you, and or undermine you DO NOT BITE.... IGNORE IGNORE IGNORE.
Clebel, just nasty. You don't know this person or her story. You obviously harbour deep resentment toward the BM in your life, I'm sorry this is your truth. However to so hastily treat another poster on here because she "reminds" you of "golden uterus" is just uncalled for. Find another scape goat or better yet tell BM herself.
Nope, sorry. Counseling is
Nope, sorry. Counseling is not a regular doctor appointment. Parent teacher conference was schedule 2 days before hand in the middle of the month, and because of the RO BF can't go anyways!!!
Regular doctors appointments?? There haven't been any!!
He doesn't have the rights everyone seems to want to point out to me as him having. I have them, he lost his!!!
Okay stepmom in hiding. When
Okay stepmom in hiding. When was the last time you did anything that only benefitted BM?? Or do you look out for best interest of your family??
Our daughter just told her counselor and attorney BF scares her and she doesn't want him to know where we live. She is also saying she is scared to sleep there.
Do you really think in the best interest of the children parents should be considered??
You know the last time he took me to court for contempt he had a list of 17 phone calls that he said he never received from the kids. I had phone records to prove him wrong. He in his own paper had a police report he made saying he only had talked to the kids for 20 of his 30 mins. Yes, he believed fathers phone time 7-730 meant he had 30 mins and anything less was a violation. Than he testified in court he didn't talk to them at all that day. When my attorney asked him after seeing my phone records does he believe if he didn't get the call, the call never happened?? He said yes, if I didn't receive the phone call, she never had the kids call. How do you be rational with that???
I'm sorry you feel that way
I'm sorry you feel that way because I still hear you say you did things in the best interest of the kid not BM.
I like you!!! Lol I'm willing
I like you!!! Lol
I'm willing to admit being wrong. I feel in the best interest of the children doesn't always mean in the best interest of both parents.
Judge wants minimal contact between BF and I. I am going to the court house to ask if I can get this changed to an email by the 1st of the month of the previous months appointments. That way there is no back and forth. I can send 1 email and be done with it.
That was my question as well.
That was my question as well. She said he lost his rights due to his bad behavior, which to me sounds like maybe at some point, CPS was involved, he failed to correct his behaviors/conditions that led to them being involved within the time allowed, then the state moved to terminate his rights. Maybe I am just reading way too literally into the "lost his rights" comment I don't know, but that is how I take it. When the court actually terminates rights, that is exactly what it means, terminated, done, forever, permanent, no rights, no longer this child's legal parent in any way, shape, or form, there would be no contact at all. Did the Judge on your case just temporarily suspend his rights for something he did?
Judges word in court.. I need
Judges word in court.. I need a parent who I know will be responsible for the child's well being. Therefore I am giving mom Sole Legal custody. Dad does not have the power to make any choices regarding the well being of these children any longer. There should no fighting over changing dentists when they have had the same dentist for 5 yrs. dad should not be fighting with mom to change counselors because dad doesn't like their counselor when the children have already bonded with their counselor. CPS, investigators, state psychologists, children's attorneys were all involved. Each person got a different story from dad about me.
He has limited visitation right now and the children's attorney is going to court to suspend that.
I created this threat not to talk about that issue so much as to ask for unbiased advice on the other issue.
I have gotten the advice on here to ignore the RO I have on him when it comes to contact, that can't happen. It gives him passes to contact me.
Ok. I gotcha. I see what you
Ok. I gotcha. I see what you are saying now. The reason I was asking, was because if his rights were actually legally terminated, you would not have to tell him a thing ever again. When rights are legally terminated, that person pretty much ceases to exist legally in regard to the child. It is very hard to get that done and is usually achieved after major CPS involvement/failure to cooperate/correct, etc. If the Judge gave you sole custody, his rights are still intact, he just has whatever visitation set forth by the Judge at this time. I agree with you on the RO. I would not want to contact him if there was nothing to actually say, but, for your own protection, it is best to just send the email like you said so that he can't use it to dig at you. Sounds like you have been put thru it with him.