I am pissed at both of them!!! He's at work today..24 hr shift..so I don't have to look at him today..and I know he spoke to SD by phone from work right after he spoke to me. So time-line wise she must have sent him this e-mail not long after....but instead of appologising to me. She just sends an e-mail to HIM through our joint e-mail....making chit-chit like he's her best buddy in the whole world..and nothing out of the ordinary is going on. She knows he's at work..and I'm the one who'll see it.

I had this big speil ready to send to her today..that was basically everything I've said here..what were you thinking ..how dare you..etc...but I was advised to not send it.

I just couldn't contain myself....so I sent a reply anyway!!!!
Much toned down....

IT went as follows:
{I am supremely PISSED at you!

I'm glad you had such a chuckle putting *** in the game Monday....... Nice to know its...how did you put it... "OK for her to tell me now since she didn't get hurt..." That statement tells me you were aware of the risks, my wishes, doctors orders etc.... and did it anyway........

...just like you mentioned in the car the other day......about taking her on your bike..against my wishes..some comment about doing it anyway/not telling me....... Batting / biking whatever!}

Sister-in-law thinks that SD will just cry crocodile tears to Daaaaaaaddy...and I'll wear it all.

I can't believe him either!!!! I'll let you all know how it goes...

In the meantime I've decided to take a couple of days for myself..daughter's going with her Dad..son doesn't want to..SD is going away with her fiance for the long weekend so Hubby is watching her dog.....here..so it can PISS ALL OVER MY CARPET like it usually does. I don't want THE DAMN DOG in my house!!!!!!!! Especially now feeling as I do!

Soooooooo I think I'll take that "mini-vacation" weekend hubby & I were supposed to take B/f he blew me off for SD.... and take me & my son on a little trip..."mini vacation"....just the two of us........

Yes, HE defends her damn dog tooooo!!!! Wanted his cat put-down when he was married for that same reason...but her dog..the sun rises & sets on that tooo...

And as far as her taking care of her husband.... HA

Listen!!! he does the cooking...he does the cleaning..he does the laundry..he makes the money.. This guy had just bought his own house ..so she dumped her high-school sweetheart..cheated on him with this guy..once she set her sights on him....put the run on his roommates and moved herself right in..

It's history repeating itself... the spawn of the mother...suckering some poor young fool in who doesn't know what he's done and what she's really all about until it's too late....

I'm having a very bitter day...week....also...and kind of letting it all hang out.... Thanks Girls!!

I asked him a hypothethical questions .. When I got 1/2 way through and he figured out where I was going he started getting defensive... I told him he has no objectivity and can't even let me ask a generalized hypothical question. He kept saying it was my daughter's fault..she shouldn't have played..she knew it..etc..and did everything he could to deflect responsibilty all onto the 13 yr old with none for the 20 yr old adult who was in charge of her as a babysitter and a coach!

So I asked him...IF SD was lying to him about what she said.what was he going to do about it...as a parent. He comes back with sarcasm saying.."tell her I wasn't impressed"..so I ask..would that be it... he comes back with "what else do you want me to do..spank her?!"

Then I ask...Would she be expected to appologise for making my daughter out to be the liar? He starts again with ..whose to say your daughter isn't the liar..you only have one side of the story..defend princess..defend princess..etc.

(He doesn't know I spoke to the other coach/witness who verified everything my daughter said and then some..& I didn't tell him different)

Then he began lecturing ME about taking my daughters side..
He said that parents can't make the mistake of just taking their kids word for things.....the "not my baby syndrome"

I said "ABSOLUTELY!!!!!!!" dripping with sarcasm myself

He hung up on me....

See... I told you ladies...
You just can't talk to him about princess!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

It's pretty rediculous isn't it!! I relayed some of my conversation with hubby to my daughter..she has a game tomorrow night and both SD and S DAd will be there..I don't want to go..but feel like I have to to protect her from SD's lies & hubbys delusions.

Anyways....I told her that he still thinks that she is the liar and is still defending her step-sister and that he keeps saying it's (other coaches) fault and your own fault..you shouldn've known better. I think it's fair that she knows this...especially if she has to deal with this crap tomorrow

She agrees that it is her own fault..she knows. I have benched her..and she also knew she wasn't supposed to bat and did anyway. AT least SHE is mature enough to admit it when she messes up!!

Well then she goes on to tell me more about what really happened. She said she was "protecting SD" and didn't want to say anything else to get her in trouble....BUT When SD read off the batting order, the other coach unknowingly put her in ..My daughter actually did protest and said "I don't think I'm supposed to be batting" to SD... who replies..."Do it anyway, just don't get hit with the ball!!" My daughter decided to tell me after all since..SD is throwing her under the train to save herself..making her out to be the liar..she is not impressed by that AT ALL!!!

SD actually encouraged her to play..when she pointed out she wasn't allowed too. Just when I think I'm as pissed as I can get.. BAMM!!

The other coach (assist) ..who I spoke to this morning is kind of pissed at SD himself. He feels "played". He was soooo appologetic for what happened..he kept saying "I would never had put her in had I known!!" I told him I don't blame him .. I just called to find out what was really said..(I do my homework). He's the one who said it was a "BIG JOKE" between SD & my daughter..he thought it was a "family joke"..something that hubby & I would laugh at/be happy about too. He was not happy when I told him ..she did it deliberately against my wishes..

During my conversation with hubby after spewing SD's crap..that it was all the other coaches fault..he said that he knows I would never call up (other coach) to discuss this issue/give him shit..Why wouldn't I??? He could actually verify who's telling the truth!!

Hubby didn't know I've already done my homework.and spoke to him this morning and he doesn't know that .other Coach suggested this morning that he would be more than happy to join a "Group discussion" with all parties present and expose SD's lies..cause he feels kind of used and stupid too and isn't very impressed and feels very badly that he had any role (knowingly or unknowinly) in putting my daughter at risk. OMG! I think hubby would have a meltdown!!!! To have princess exposed in front of everyone like that. And I will be a marked woman..as far as SD's revenge goes!! She got her mother in her..

The fact that I was making sense, had solid arguments and he couldn't cloud the issue with BS like he usually does...and couldn't deal with the fact...that Princess may actully be the liar. He had to hang up on me!!!! He will loose his mind...if me & other coach confront her..in front of him...both of them will!!!! I'm not sure if I'm ready for the shit that'll cause!!!

I've tried for so long to just let it all roll off my back. I've bitten my tongue..gone with the flow..I don't think SD thought I would call her on it!!!! Hubby either...I've been relitively passive when it came to her..sucked it up!!!!

I don't know if I like where this is going.....

Thanks For Listening & The Advice
Having Your Support Helps

Have you eve heard this saying...

One day I went to Kiss SD's ass..but I just couldn't do it...her Dad's FEET were in the way! lol

..you can "insert name here"..to suit your needs...

I'm in such a mood!!!

Well her bio-mom is a real bitch...by all accounts..(it tends to be my nature..to check my sources..and get more than 1 side of a story)...and wasn't much of a mother..wasn't there for anyone in the family..just out for herself!! This has been told to me by hubby/sister-in-law/brother in law/long-time famiy friends..etc. I've seen it..using SD..after the divorce for a child-support check and ditching her once she wasn't worth $$ to her anymore.

I think SD has some real issues with female relationships as a result of her mother. She watched her mother treat her father like dirt, cheat on him, belittle him, play mind games with him, etc.... and didn't like it..and told him to leave for the last 4 yrs they were together and always said "Dad..I'm going with you..when you leave!"

I don't think she counted on me..showing up!! I ruined everything for her..(I'm surmising)..that's why she was sooo pissy in the beginning towards us and ran to her mother. Mom played the I'm your buddy..stay with me..role to perfection..until she turned 19 and wasn't worth $$ then her true colors showed again. But SD has gone back to Dad in recent years and the games are on ... (Again I'm surmising).

It reminds me of alcoholism...it runs in families.. And the kids coming up in an alcoholic home..dispise it..or the alcoholic parent..and vow to never be like that.. yet the cycle continues..over & over..through generations

She hated the things her mother did/does/stands for...but she's still her mother..and like it or not..mother is the female role model in her life and she has been conditioned to be that way with people, treat other women with jealousy, manipulate men to do everything for you..cooking/cleaning/laundry etc.. to take and rarely give..(unless it suits your purposes)

She does not even have 1 close female freind!!!!! She hangs out with her BF's best friend..who is her cousin..and constantly bashes his wife. I mean CONSTANTLY!!!! Yet is very sweet & freindly to her face...that's the closest female in her life. She used to hang out more with her other cousin..female..but hey have drifted apart..(yet she is standing for her b/c she has no-one else)...but she is SOOOOOO jealous of her.. will have gatherings at her house and not invite this girl.

I really think SD surrounds herself with men/male friends because she knows how to play them..and the women see right through her. Serious female relationship problems!!!!!!

I think your right ... hubby has to clear his head..and get a grip on reality.... but if he doesn't .. I have to face my options!!!

SD will never allow him to be happy with any other woman!!!!!