I have been with my wife for 5 going on 6 years soon. When I first met her sons, they were wild.... without rules, spoiled, babied both kids were very young at this time and she was going through a divorce. Every time the oldest would come around I would get nervous. You could see a gleam of evil in this child's eyes. Something wasn't right about him from the start. He broke things intentionally, caused trouble, cried if someone corrected him you name it! Mom always rocked him and told him it was ok OR she would just pack the kids up and abruptly leave my house if I told her son he couldn't play with my breakables. This has carried on for years. The child is ADHD... threatened suicide if he got in trouble, hallucinates (or makes this shit up) lies, steals, stuffs his face without permission... has mental breakdowns when he has sugar, bullies other children but gets upset if he's bullied. Manipulates you NAME it, sneaks around his grandparents at night eats candy cookies ice cream then when we get him back he's a smart ass, backtalk's and mom lets him get away with it... if it's me. If it's her, she gets on to him. Mom and him FEED off of one another. Recently he was diagnosed bipolar (which I have been saying this EVER since I met this child) oh but mom didn't want to listen. She never listens to me. She reminisces about her ex, she babies her oldest son who looks JUST like daddy. The ex has moved on with his life and even his new family makes fun of her son for being babied by his mother. For Christs sake the child doesn't even know how to brush his teeth of keep his shoes tied!!! He is officially 13 however acts like a retarded 2 year old. Seriously, I believe he is mentally retarded. He starts crap between his mother and I constantly. If I say something is how it is, he will go and look it up and try and prove me wrong in front of his mom. He also smacks and instead of cutting his food with a knife he uses his fingers. Completely LAZY and mom lets him do it. ALL of it. I am constantly trying to teach him manners, not to be lazy, to work for what he wants... he doesn't have ONE chore. Not ONE he can at least do by himself. He's 13 and still goes to daycare. The other child is almost perfect. Does everything he is told and does not back talk. I resent the 13 year old... I wish he wasn't around or would go live with his dad but even his own FATHER doesn't want him around. Mom is NEVER consistent with any of the rules. If he threatens to commit suicide to get out of punishment mom jumps up and says "I CANT MY BAY HURT HIMSELF!!!!" master manipulator. Living with 2 bipolar people is too much for me. In more recent times, my wife treats me like shit but just ooohhhs and aaahhhs and her bratty little evil child. Spoiled f****n rotten and purposely disobeys her and the rules. Fights her at bedtime to go to bed and she gives in. Or he will pull some s**t like he's had a hallucination and momma lets him stay up... cuddles him and talks words of love. No one else in the house gets that treatment, not even the little one. The minute the little one does something wrong he's in IMMEDIATE trouble. I's starting to think this mom is in love with her own son and I have come to almost despise BOTH of them. I don't know what to do!!!! Don't suggest talking either because there is no talking to my wife... like her son, she's always right.