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OT: my parents are divorcing so my mother can date?!

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Y'all, I am not handling this well. Will definitely be talking to my therapist, but in the meantime I know I can count on honest feedback here.

My sister told me today that my mother is divorcing my dad. Apparently, she told my sister in person last weekend and is planning to tell me when she visits tomorrow. Her reason? Because she feels like she has wasted her life, and she wants to date. Sister tells me that she already has a profile on a dating site. 

Happy OSD update

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It's a big week around here. DD8 is the lead in a theatrical production that opens on Friday. Pretty much every moment of our Summer has been taken up by rehearsals, voice lessons, and at home practice and it's been very exciting. In the past, DD experiencing something like this would cause both SDs to feel jealous and act out in various ways to try to get XH and I to pay attention to them. So much so that when DD got the part, I almost swore XH to secrecy because I didn't want to deal with any lashing out from my SDs.

BM Logic part 2 (the one where BM is the MOTHER)

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So…. now for the truly absurd part.

OSD graduates in May and was accepted to a handful of universities, but desperately wants to attend my alma mater. Please note that I had no influence over this - since my SDs were 2 and 4, we’ve taken them to sporting events a few times a year and of course they were “fans” until they were teenagers and were too cool for it. OSD has only come back around to showing interest again over the past year. So I genuinely never expected either of them to go there and OSD came to this decision of her own accord. 

BM Logic

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I’ve been meaning to post about this for a while because it just becomes more and more ridiculous all the time. Long set-up to give context to the hilariously dumbfounding conclusion of this saga:

OSD turned 16 in early 2020. At that time, we handed down our oldest vehicle to her. It's a reliable European SUV that we drove for many years and kept in very good condition and never had any issues. She was delighted to have it and we felt good knowing that she would be safe (or as safe as a teen driver can be) in it. 

A rare insight from YSD

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My OSD has been driving for over two years now, so she and YSD kind of just come and go between BM's, my house, and H's house as they please. It's a 45-minute one way trip from my house to their school/BM's house. I did the majority of picking up and dropping off for about 10 years because of H's travel/work schedule. For 6 of those years I did the round trip every single day every other week. I'd estimate that H made the drive on average once every two months. I didn't resent it at the time because it was just the way that our family needed to work in order for everyone to stay close.

Kind of a small miracle

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SD14 is by far the most rational and mature person in BM's household. So I guess after some reflection she determined that she had overreacted to the haunted house disappointment and reached out to H to apologize. According to her, there were two full days of hysteria on BM and SD16's parts about the situation. She said that SD16 wouldn't even get out of bed on Monday and BM let her stay home from school because she was so upset. So, needless to say that SD16's future is looking really promising.

BM thinks H is scared of me (and in unrelated news, my SD are huge brats)

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I've been extremely sick since Friday. As a result, H has been solely responsible for DD7. He had apparently offered to take SD16 and SD14 to a haunted house last night, but obviously DD7 can't participate in that, so he let them know yesterday morning that they were welcome to come over and hang out with him and DD, but they'd have to do the haunted house another time.

SDs' relationship with DD...

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This is mostly just a vent because I'm feeling really down about this today. Up until maybe 9 months ago, my SDs (16 and 14) were completely obsessed with DD7. They would facetime her almost every day when they were with BM and would constantly text me pictures and videos to show to her. The adoration was mutual; she talked about them nonstop and they all just genuinely loved being together.

The nerve

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After SD16 threw her Father's Day tantrum, DH didn't hear from either SD for a couple of weeks. Well, a few days ago I noticed that he'd pulled $600 cash out, which is kind of unusual. I actually forgot to ask him about it, but yesterday he brought it up.

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