What is that? Does that mean the state we live in will go coordinate with the state BM lives in to enforce CS? We have full custody and BM hasn't paid a dime in CS since April. She's over $4,000 behind. Our state doesn't keep us informed of anything until now, it told us it just filed an Interstate Case. No more info. Maybe deadbeat BM will finally start feeling consequences of her abandoning SD?

Normal self-centered pre-teen attitude doesn't even begin to describe it. SD11 (almost 12) is unusually selfish. For example, she can be standing right in front of someone watching them fall and break an ankle and she will just stare at them and ask, "So what am I going to eat? I'm hungry." True story. DH has even joked that someone could be on fire and she would just stand there and watch. I wouldn't trust her to pull a splinter out of a stuffed animal!

Does anyone else feel like crap over the whole stigma of being SECOND or THIRD wife/husband/significant other? I recently had an encounter that went something like this, "Oh, you're the THIIIIRRRRRD spouse." Left me feeling like I was a loser and not worthy of much. And here I am....a former career woman with an adult child. Never intended to start all over and raise another kid full time--especially one that isn't mine and who hates me. But, now I'm here raising DH's horrible child full time because BM abandoned SD.

I have a vent. My SD11 must be the most strange and socially inappropriate kid in the world. It's not just recently. When I met her, she was 5 yrs old. She was strange then and she is even stranger now. Tonight I was doing dishes when I felt something brush up on my ass. Yeah, my ass. I look, and it's SD trying to squeeze between me and the sink so she can heat her food in the microwave. Is there any chance you can wait a few minutes? Or maybe say Excuse me? Thing is, in every other situation, SD goes way out of her way to avoid me. It's always so strange.