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Submitted by Frustr8d1 on Tue, 02/24/2015 - 2:36pm

Ok, so seriously, what the HELL does a 12 year old do for 2-3 FULL HOURS in the bath after 9 or 10 p.m.?? Weeks ago, I posted a sarcastic comment about SD12 spending hours in the bath after "her highness" was served dinner while she has no other responsibilities. She won't even wipe the place where she sat and dumped food crumbs on...and she won't wipe a counter or clean a dish. My sarcastic (and HOSTILE at the time) comment was about SD spending hours spanking her monkey in the bath while we all clean up after her.

Disengaged skid suddenly decides to Engage

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Submitted by Frustr8d1 on Fri, 02/20/2015 - 3:01pm

Some of you with good memories might remember me as the one with the SD12 who is allowed by DH to roam the neighborhood with no rules or boundaries. SD never is expected to help around the house...not even with her own room. It was such a disaster for many years as we have had SD fulltime for over 7 years. BM is completely out of the picture. During the past 7 years, I have tried and failed at many approaches. I tried to be the mom--the only "mom" SD ever knew and I tried to lay out the rules that any mom would have set. That didn't work. SD knows I'm not her mom.

Love Watching DH Dig his own Grave

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Submitted by Frustr8d1 on Tue, 02/17/2015 - 2:16pm

}:) I used to get annoyed and even upset about DH's parenting. Or Lack Thereof! My opinions always caused endless fights. I gave up long ago and sure enough, SD12 began taking over as the Alpha of the house. Finally, DH had enough and actually took action. Last week. For one weekend only. He felt so proud of himself so I let him gloat. BUT, as I predicted, it was only temporary. Last weekend, he swore he would have SD working in the house. Doing dishes. Cleaning floors. Cleaning her room. Cleaning common living spaces. Everything a 12 yr old is capable of doing.

Kid Time: 100 / Adult Time: 0

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Submitted by Frustr8d1 on Mon, 02/16/2015 - 3:29pm

Does anyone feel cheated that so much time & money is spent on skids who, at the end of the day, don't really care or appreciate what DH does for them? It's hard enough to spend enough couple time in a nuclear family with bio kids, But, in steps, it seems like there are so many issues being addressed all the time that there is little time or energy left for the marriage.

Always Responsible for planning SD's Events

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Submitted by Frustr8d1 on Tue, 10/28/2014 - 10:31am

I posted earlier about me being the one and only person left to plan birthday parties (and ALL holidays for that matter) for the past 7 years while BM is off moving from boyfriend to boyfriend with no concern for her kid's upbringing. So again, this year, DH is working 12s for 3 weeks, including SD11's birthday and again, I'm alone to plan it and make it work.

SD Threw Dinner in Trash

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Submitted by Frustr8d1 on Sun, 09/28/2014 - 12:45pm

Full-time SM here. Weekends are pure hell no matter what. SD11 is in the habit of going out to God knows where all day all evening. Every day I ask DH if it concerns him. Or maybe at a minimum he might at least wonder where the hell SD goes, where she pisses, where she eats...?? Every day, DH yells at me for asking. Tells me not to ask him. Tells me not to let it get to me. Ummm ok. I guess if DH doesn't care (and obviously BM doesn't care since she abandoned SD years ago) then I should not care, right?

Disengaged Child

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Submitted by Frustr8d1 on Tue, 09/16/2014 - 9:56am

Since this is a venting site--I never thought much about this until yesterday's blogs. Adult SKs have just as much right to disengage from SM as the SMs have the right to disengage from them. BUT, as a full time custodial SM, my SD11 has pretty much disengaged from both DH and I. It's strange and uncomfortable. My house in no longer a home and my home is not my own. SD will make every effort to avoid any type of contact. Including eye contact and even avoids passing me in the hallway!

Evil SM Thrown Under the Bus. Again.

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Submitted by Frustr8d1 on Thu, 09/11/2014 - 1:08pm

Last week, I was in the main bathroom...the bathroom in the main area of the house (for guests and also SD's main bathroom that she uses) So I noticed her shampoo & conditioner were both gone. SD habitually leaves empty shampoo bottles and soap bottles on the counter. I was a little surprised because DH had just gotten her new ones not too long ago. So, I decided to go and get her new shampoo & conditioner.

Now here it is, 5 days later, and SD tells DH she needs more shampoo/conditioner.

DH: I thought you just got some.

SD Ignoring DH's Birthday

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Submitted by Frustr8d1 on Tue, 09/09/2014 - 6:21am

Yesterday was DH's birthday. SD11 knew but walked around the house all night pretending and ignoring it. We already decided to not have gifts, only cards for both our birthdays. We travel around Europe and take big trips once a month so DH and I agreed we really don't want to make a big deal about either of our birthdays. We celebrate too much as it is. Still, we give cards and have a cake and try to be nice to each other for once LOL.

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