The past year was a difficult year since we found out SS21 is a heroin addict and can only stay clean for about 6 weeks before he relapses. I pretty much disengaged from him in Nov when I knew he was using again. Took DH a bit longer to realize SS 21 was using again (I am pretty sure he starts as soon as he gets out of rehab). Coupled with the fact he is bi-polar it is not a good situation.

So drug addict SS21 just entered his 6th program in as many months (never finishes) to deal with his heroin addiction and bi polar issues. Good he is 3000 miles away I hope he never comes back. So crazy enabling BM calls yesterday and wanted my DH to pay his $800 fine when he got arrested in November - DH hearing about this for the first time - for posssion of drug paraphernalia. DH says no way he is paying SS21 needs to pay since it is his problem. (GOOD ANSWER DH).

Ok, major issues with SS 20 - found out this summer he was a herion addict he has been through rehab and other mental health programs since back in October he was diagnosed as being bi-bolar. I used to have a close relationship with SS20 until I realized he was using me for money to buy drugs. I do love him but ever time he is around me my husband and I get into a huge fight. I dont trust SS20 as far as I could throw him and may never trust him again.

I was hoping that dealing with BM would go away but she is still here - my SS 20 is bi polar and now DH still has to deal with her - she is a nightmare. Lies, manipulates - I want to leave I hate her so much. But I would let my hatred of her overcome the love of DH?

When does it end - can he cut off communicating with her? BM only calls when she wants something - money or for my DH to do something. Same with SS 20 for that matter - only calls when he wants something. Claims my DH abandoned him - what a joke.