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Moving Date is Set!!!

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After yet another horrible fibro flare that caused me to have to call into work for two days, and yet another nonproductive discussion with DH with him insisting that "not all of this" is caused by SD13 stress, followed by "Just go ahead and call your mama then, if that's how you feel" I finally did it.

I called my mama:)

I don't think he thought I was telling the truth when I told him my family would be down here in a heartbeat.

I actually had to put them off for a little while. They wanted to come this weekend, but I need to give notice at work and pack, etc.

OF COURSE she's "going for" child support. Did we expect any differently?

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So here's a recap of what's going on in our home...

Back last November I informed my husband I couldn't take anymore of SD13's behavior and when we went up to my mother's for his annual Thanksgiving hunting trip I was not coming back.

It almost gave him a heart attack. I told him he was welcome to go but SD was not because my health is failing and I can't do this anymore.

I have a slave for the next three days...

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SD13 got herself suspended from school AGAIN. This is the second time in the past couple of months and that doesn't even include the IN-school suspension stuff.

This time it was for bullying and mouthing off to the teacher.

Last time SD got suspended I threw a royal fit because she slept in, watched tv all day, generally enjoyed her day with no consequences (her phone had already been taken away...he just told her it would be longer before she got it back.)

Should have left last November

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Some of y'all might remember I had finally had enough last fall and decided to move back to the area where my family lives, with or without my DH and definitely WITHOUT my SD13.

Then DH talked me into giving him until April. Then he talked me into taking SD13 with us...

We went through battles with BM and a bunch of court crap until we finally got permission to take her. We were planning to move asap this summer.

Well, dammit, I guess I care, after all...

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Just a couple of days ago I posted that I was all out of give-a-damns for my SD13 and sincerely thought it was the case.

Then yesterday, she did the sweetest thing...

Saturday evening her birth-grandmother came to get her and took her out to get a dozen pink roses for her BM for Mother's Day. SD brought them in and put them in water for the night, then took them with her the next morning for a Mother's Day breakfast with BM's side of the family.

Fact is, I just don't care....

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DH wants me to care. SD13 wants me to care. I even want me to care.

But I just don't care.

DH sends her in with me tonight to "learn to cook" {{{{sigh}}}

SD announces she will be willing to try some of my shepherd's pie tonight. She tells me she is trying. Can I tell she is trying?

Yes, I can...

But all I want her to do is leave me alone. My switch has flipped. I no longer care and I can't make myself care. I don't like her. I don't dislike her. My give-a-damn is broke. I ran out of fucks to give.

New Facebook Group for Stepmoms dealing with Mini-Wife Syndrome

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Mini-Wife Syndrome is so controversial. Thank God for Steptalk where most everyone is supportive of each other's issues.

HOWEVER, I often see women getting attacked for even breathing the word on other Facebook groups, so I started one for us stepmoms who are dealing with Mini-Wife Syndrome. If anyone wants to join us it can be found at:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/miniwifesyndromegroup/

This must be how a normal life feels...

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No chest pain

My neck and shoulders don't ache

I don't feel panicky or short of breath

My soul feels light

SD13 is gone to her mothers and won't be back until next Tuesday.

It's been so long since I felt normal I had forgotten what it feels like.

It's getting harder and harder to avoid the real question... is it really all worth it? Is HE worth it?

I honestly don't know anymore:(

And the lies continue...

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SD13 lost her phone about three weeks ago because she got suspended from the bus for 3 days PLUS got put on in-school suspension for a different misbehavior.

The past few days she has been making a big deal out of the fact that she has "three B's" now and is doing soooo well in school. And yesterday evening she asked if her teacher had called. When we said no, she said her English teacher was supposed to call and tell her dad how good she's been in school.

Birth Grandmother posting memes on SD13's FB page about her being abused...

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The past week, BGM has posted some memes on SD13's Facebook page. A couple of them were about holding your head high and walking away when people mistreat you, a couple about how if someone mistreats you it speaks more of them than you, and this last one says "Abuse does not have to be physical to be abusive..." It goes on and on about how abuse can be verbal or mental, blah, blah, blah. I am 100% sure this is aimed at me because I have recently disengaged from SD and SD is very pouty and whiny about it.

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