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What should DH do: 37 year old daughter refuses to apologize?

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Submitted by lstewart on Tue, 07/13/2010 - 8:00pm

DH finally stood up for me. He made a trip overseas specifically to talk to his daughter. He told her that her conduct has been unacceptable, that she had to stop the rudeness.He told her that she needs to apologize. She tells him that will never happen. My heart breaks for him. He doesn't know what to do now. She is his daughter. Because she lives in a different country he does not see her often. But she calls him at his office, never at home often. What should he do now? Stop the calls to the office? Keep re-iterating what he said in person? Any suggestions?
thx

Is he being disloyal or I am being unreasonable?

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Submitted by lstewart on Sat, 02/20/2010 - 1:48am

I need objective advice here.

I am incredibly hurt that my husband carries on a close relationship with his 36 year old daughter that completely excludes me. She refuses to talk to or see me. I am fine with that since she is determined to break up my marriage, is rude to me and is generally a toxic force in our lives. She complains to my husband about me and speaks badly about me to friends and family. Happily she lives out of town.

Where to go from here??

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Submitted by lstewart on Thu, 12/03/2009 - 10:59am

I have 3 adult stepchildren in their 30s. Things have not been easy, but my relationship with 2 of them is at least civil. The third has been visiting from out of town with her husband and child for 3 weeks. She did not stay with us because I told her she had to show basic respect in our home. (She told me her relationship was with her father not with me, so that was that.)

Help: How to Disengage

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Submitted by lstewart on Sun, 11/15/2009 - 2:56am

Does anyone have any experience with disengaging? Are there tips? I keep reading that it is a wonderful place to be. However, I continue to feel betrayed by DH when he makes plans for his adult children. This includes dinners out and so on. He always includes their "partners." The reason I am trying to disengage is that I have been repeatedly excluded by them. Not to mention the persistent outright rudeness. So, it was the only defence mechanism available. Are there techniques anyone has used to get to the point of not caring? I keep feeling hurt. Advice?