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Christmas Drama: BM trying to "translate" the CO in her favor
BM pulls this bullsh!t every single year.
DH wrote BM an email trying to get some sort of confirmation that she "understands" what the CO dictates for xmas break. That way, she can't pull the "oh, I didn't know" crap when she conveniently fails to bring the kids when they're scheduled to be here.
She of course neglected to respond for a week, as per her usual.
Then she sends him this:
Had skids for 3 Solid Weeks and we owe HER child support
We usually have the kids from 630AM until 445PM Monday through Friday. SS5 is in kindgergarten, so we only see him for a few hours, but SS2 is here all day every day until 445 and on Saturday and Sunday EOW (when BM plays mommy).
Due to the Thanksgiving Holiday and BM not wanting to see them, we have now had the kids for about three weeks solid. BM has seen them a total of about 9 hours (honestly).
I am enfuriated that BM just won more CS in court less than two weeks ago.
Skids Control Issues: SS5 claims he will NEVER EVER SURF!!!
Has anyone noticed an odd investment in fear with their skids? Has anyone had any luck addressing this issue?
Three days ago, I was watching Surf's Up with SS5. I said we should try to learn to surf someday because it looks like fun.
SS5: No. I'll never surf. I won't ever try it.
Me: You don't think it looks like fun?
SS5: No! I won't do it!
Me: Um . . . why not?
SS5: I don't want to get splashed by the water.
Me: So you'll never try . . . because of water? You play in pools, don't you? That water is the same as ocean water.
UPDATE: Court: Right of First Refusal
We looked at the transcripts from the court meeting and the judge literally said that he was listing the Monday, Wednesday, and Friday hours from 7AM to 430PM under Right of First Refusal because he did not want to change the custody terms.
He honestly stated the reason was that he didn't want to change the custody.
So here's some questions:
1. Is this legal? He is manuevering the hours into a section where they don't belong in order to keep BM as the custodial parent even though we have the children 70% of the time.
2. Is there anything we can do about it?
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UPDATE: Court Obliteration: here's the CO (Right of First Refusal?)
Thanks again for all your responses. You are really helping us think this through. We have about 9 days until they cut the first chunk out of DH's check and we're already in the red zone financially.
Here is the EXACT WORDING of the CO. I'd really appreciate it if anyone could chime in to help us interpret this. If you don't have much time to read, please just read the RIGHT OF FIRST REFUSAL section and let me know what you think.
UPDATE: Court: We just got obliterated
Update to THIS post: http://www.steptalk.org/node/54596
First, THANK YOU SO MUCH for all the support and suggestions. It really helped me get through this morning without having a panic attack.
Many of you asked about the CO. This is it:
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Court: We just got obliterated
I can't believe this. I am late to work because I can't stop crying. How is this happening?
DH just got ordered to pay BM $200 a month in child support.
We DO NOT have that money.
We take care of SS2 and SS5 70% of the time. We need that money to keep food the house.
The judge said that NONE of Dh's evidence mattered at all because BM would not sign off to agree that it was evidence. Judge asked BM if it was evidence, and she pled the 5th.
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The Jacket Crisis: SS5 just had another meltdown
DH had to leave early this morning because the courts here are idiotic and gave him two different addresses for his child support meeting (scheduled at 9AM when both open). So, somehow he's got to be at two places at one time, and I got volunteered to take SS5 to school.
SS5's "usual" jacket is in his dad's car, so I pull out his winter coat and tell him to put it on.
SS5: Ummm. I don't want to wear a jacket today.
ME: It's 50 degrees outside. Put the jacket on.
SS5: It's too big.
ME: It's fine. Put it on and let's go.
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Skids grabbing each others crotch (HELP)
SS5 started grabbing SS2 by the crotch about 6 months ago. He does this in order to pull SS2 to the ground, to pull him from one place to another, and occassionally to punish him for being irritating in some way.
About three months ago, SS5 started grabbing his own crotch as well. We have asked him why and he says he doesn't know, but he grabs himself continuously regardless of the situation or the place. He stops when we tell him to, but ten minutes later he is grabbing his crotch again.
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OT - Birth control and weight gain (side effects). HELP
So, I just started the minipill a week ago and I have been bloated ever since. I am just under 5'8", and I had gotten down to 150 before the wedding, which is pretty slim for me because I'm really muscular. Well, the minipill is screwing with my weight already. I'm also foggy headed and stuttering pretty constantly, which is not nice considering I work as an instructor of English and I'm supposed to sound like I'm comfortable with the langauge that I teach. :S