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Out of hand: I'm pissed when BM speaks to step kids

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To begin with, I know this is completely unreasonable and potentially unforgivable. However, it is the truth.

I am infuriated every time BM says a word to my stepsons.

Legally, we have them 50/50. Truthfully, we have them 70% of the time if not more.

I have no idea if she loves them or not, but she does not treat them that way and pushes them off on us whenever she can. She uses them as pawns. She lies to them. She is not a good parent.

Don't know how to feel: DH's dad is staying with us and tried to avoid wedding.

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So . . . there are alot of complicated factors, but I'm going to skip them.

DH's dad, who I had really liked and wanted to have a relationship with as a father in law, told us he wasn't going to attend our wedding last month.

He showed up at the last minute and moped the entire time. I'm still not entirely sure why. I am, however, pretty sure that he only attended because DH got on the phone and yelled at him.

Now, he is spending the weekend at our house to see SS5 and SS2 about a month and a half after attending the wedding he did not want to go to.

The BM Victim Parade continues: ohmygoodness, she's going broke!?

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DH's dad is here with us this weekend and has informed DH that BM is going broke and is about to lose her house.

Reality = if she were going broke, and she's not, it would be her own fault for incurring 10,000 dollars worth of lawyer fees dragging DH into court for increased child support (she makes more money than he does and we have 50/50; it is NOT going to happen).

SS2 (almost 3) told me he was going to kill me

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SS2 turns 3 in february. He's been having trouble with talking, but seems to have had some sort of breakt through recently.

He's been totally obsessed with killing. I have no idea where this comes from, but he is constantly talking about being the bad guy and killing his toys and his toys killing each other. DH and I tell him it's not nice and that he should be nice to his toys, but he gets mad and insists that he needs to kill them or that they need to kill each other.

BM almost hit me with her car yesterday. Am I overreacting?

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We get home from running errands. DH gets out of the car and starts walking SS2 to the door. I get the mail and then start across the driveway toward the house.

Then BM pulls into our driveway at our 30 miles per hour and stops about a foot away from me. She gets out, looks directly at me, and says "you guys forgot SS5" in an obviously pissed off way.

Bang. I suddenly remember that it is early release day (which means it is DH's day to pick SS5 up, not mine). I look at DH and say to him "why didn't they call you?"

BM looks at me and says "They did!"

Food Drama: SS5 is having a crying fit over a ham sandwich right now

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Sobbing, crying, running nose. The works.

It's a ham-freaking-sandwich.

BM has convinced SS5 that he has food issues and can't handle normal food. He can handle pop tarts, cake, cookies, corn dogs.

Anything that is bad for him and microwavable.

But a ham sandwich is TOO MUCH. This kid is about to turn 6 and has a food range of about twelve items.

DH's family kissing BM's a$$ (does it ever end?)

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DH's mom and her new husband came to town this weekend and spent the entire time with DH's older sister (affectionately refered to as Lord Voldemort at our house) and, guess who, BM.

During the divorce--which was a long ungodly mess--BM decided to become best friends with DH's older sister. The older sister likes money--and BM has plenty of it--so she basically went along with BM's plan and the two of them became best friends and tried to meddle with DH's life for the next couple years.

Moms against Cry It Out (CIO) - what do you think?

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I'd like to hear your opinion, steppers. I think this whole thread is a bit ridiculous, but that is obviously just my opinion. If you have experience on either side of the argument, I'd love to hear more.

http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/08/11/cry-it-out-cio-is-it-harmful-or...

Daddy Confusion: SS5 thinks he is SS2's Father. Am I overreacting?

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SS5 informed me two days ago that he is SS2's daddy. We were talking about dinosaurs and mommy and daddy dinosaurs and he sort of just blurted out that he is the father of his two year old brother. I tried to explain that they are both brothers, and are both the sons of my FDH. They have the same mother, too, so I see no reason for this confusion to exist. However, he continued to insist that he is SS2's daddy and that he might be somebody else's daddy, too, someday, but that he would always be SS2's daddy first. ???.

Funny Coded Conversations in front of skids :)

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Riding in the car.

Me: Do you think the French would erect a levitation contraption if they were just going to have to take it down again?

FDH: The French? Sorry?

Me: I mean, if French people had just bought a levitation contraption and then gone through all the work to put it up, do you think that would mean they're not relocating after all?

FDH: French people have levitation contraptions?

Me: Some of them . . .

FDH: I have NO IDEA what you're talking about right now.

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