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We just purchased my SD a car for her 18th birthday. The issue I am having is that she has lied to her father and I stating that she is with the mother for the weekend when she is not. She has rules here with us that is why she leaves on the weekends. I just went into her room and read a notebook that stated she was drunk over the weekend and chances are she was in the car. It realy upsets me that my husband and I sacrificed so much to get her this car and she does this. Was I wrong for reading her notebook? How do we approach her about the drinking?

Am I wrong?

I'm having an issue with my SD. Lately she has been staying at our house due to her and her mother not getting along. I have been doing everything for her, taking her to school, to work and everything else that comes with a 17 year old. Well the last couple of days I have no been in a mood to cook dinner so yesterday we had sandwiches for dinner and today I figured since my SD was getting paid chancer were she was going out to eat with her boyfriend.

Graduation

I have a SD that is about to graduate this year. The issue that I'm havin is that the BM will not help with her graduation needs. We have nearly spent 1000 on pics. ring and invites. I know that my SD wants me to give her mom invites and pics, but I feel that her mom should help out with something. I talked to her in Jan and asked her if she would help out and she agreed too. How should I handle this?

Confused

I'm just wondering if I am over reacting. I have a SD that is 17, she has been working off and on since she was 16. I am a little hurt that she has never thought about me in the sense of taking me to a movie or just buying me something just because she thought of me. Just until she started working I would always take her shopping, buy her nice purses, take her to the movies, etc.....I had a conversation with her this afternoon, I commented on her not buying me anything when she went to the mall and she said well you have everything with an attitude.

Graduation for SD

I have a 17 year old SD that is graduating this year. My issue is that her mother never wants to pay for anything. Right now she is not employed but she got her income tax just this month. Well she is out spending her money like she has no one to care for. I talked to my husband and mentioned to him that my SD and mother should go half on the grad ring and we pay for pictures, invited, dinner, etc. So all she would need to do is maybe pay 150-200 total, not alot of money.

Help!!!!!

My husband and I have been having minor issues with SD 17. I always have disagreements with my husband stating SD just comes around when it is convenient for her. The issue I'm having now is that I happened to over hear my husband talking to SD on the phone last night, he told her he would be leaving her 20 dollars in the back yard gutter. I know 20 is not alot of money but the point is that he is keeping this from me. What else is he keeping from me? What is this teaching the SDS? I was very upset only because he was not going to tell me.

Am I Wrong?

Should my SKS be able to decide when they visit there mom? We have the my SKS 50/50 with mom. The thing that upsets me is that the kids never stick to the court orders. They pretty much decide when to go to there mom;s or when to come back to our house. It really upsets me because there are time we need to plan certain days and we never have a clue when they will come back or leave. My SKS are 14/17 and our kids are 6/8 so there is a huge age difference.

Why Me!!!!

Why is it that Me as the SM is treated like s!@# when all I do for them is for there own good? Well my issue today is that my SKS act like they want to have nothng to do with my husand and I. My SD was caught stealing at the mall and skipping school. She was grounded at our house but as soon as she went to BM house she was free to do whatever she wanted. So for the last month or so they have limited there time with us. It really upsets me that we seem to be the bad guys, we provide a good home, stability, love and they have everything they need.

Mother In-Law & Step Kids Drama

My mother inlaw seems to favor the step-kids. My husband and I have 2 kids and his 2 kids from the previous marriage. It seems that my mother inlaw makes it a point to always give the SK money every week and no consideration for mine. It drives me crazy when she tells the kids not to tell anyone that she gave them money. I know she always points out that they don't have there parents together so that is why she does it. I just want her to consider her other grandkids, my kids as well.

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I NEED HELP!!!!!

I'M HAVING ISSUES WITH MY STEP KIDS. I'VE BEED A STEPMOM FOR 9 YEARS AND IT SEEMS I HAVE NO CONNECTION TO THEM. IT SEEMS ALL I DO IS GIVE, GIVE AND NOTHING IN RETURN. I WAKE UP EVERY MORNING TO COOK BREAKFAST, I DO LAUNDRY, I ALWAYS MAKE THEM BIRTHDAY PARTY'S, MAKE SURE CHRISTMAS AND OTHER HOLIDAYS ARE PERFECT. I'M SERIOUSLY THINKING ABOUT DIVORCE BUT I'M WORRIED ABOUT OR 2 CHILDREN(7&6). THIS IS REALLY PUTTING ALOT OF STRESS ON ME PHYSICALLY AND MENTALLY. IS THIS NORMAL? PLEASE HELP!!!!!!

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