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Question for those with teenage stepkids and crazy bm

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Submitted by MountainMom on Sun, 04/03/2022 - 12:45am

DH has full custody of ss15 almost 16. We live in a different state and ss is supposed to go visit bm this summer for 8.5 weeks. The CO states that ss goes to bm a week after school ends and returns the week before school starts. SS does not want to go that whole time. The family counselor suggested a week break around 4th of July since SS has plans he would like to fulfill with friends. Initially, BM said no but now she is changing her tune to a 4 day visit over the 4th weekend which would cost us a fortune since prices are so expensive that weekend.

Bm basically told dh ss would be missing his flight to come home

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Submitted by MountainMom on Wed, 09/29/2021 - 10:13pm

Extreme HCBM is making our lives miserable even 2000 miles away. Co says she gets 7 days at Christmas break and dh makes and pays for the travel. She has whined and complained about every date and time dh has offered her sp he finally just booked the trip and gave her the times.

Question to those with out of state co

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Submitted by MountainMom on Tue, 09/28/2021 - 10:47pm

OK dh has full custody. Ss15 is supposed to go to visit hcbm on holiday breaks. Christmas break says 7 days. Does this include travel?

We pay for the flights because she didn't want to, so it was our interpretation that we choose the flights and notify her and that the flights can occur on her days just as travel would occur on any other day if we lived a city a part. What is the correct reading of this? Again it is vague.

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I didn't meant to eavesdrop

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Submitted by MountainMom on Sun, 09/12/2021 - 12:28am

So, ss15 has to make regular and private phone calls to hcbm three days a week. They usually talk more but in the co, it has to be these days of the week at that time. Tonight the other kids and I headed downstairs to do some gonoodle. After five minutes I went into the hall to grab my computer to grade papers, and I could hear her voice. Ss had the phone on speaker.

Need to vent

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Submitted by MountainMom on Sat, 09/11/2021 - 10:10am

Dh has full custody of ss15. BM gets summer and long holiday breaks where we fly him to her. The parenting plan is pretty clear. BM can come yo visit with 30 days notice for a reasonable amount of time and she can pay to send him for "a 3 day weekend" with 30 days notice and it can't interfere with school, extracurricular activities, or family birthdays.

Last week bm emailed that she wants ss15 to come out for a four day weekend next week. First, he would miss two days of school, second it is on dh's birthday, and third she gave only 14 days notice.

Need advice

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Submitted by MountainMom on Sun, 06/13/2021 - 8:30am

So DH got everything that he asked for. SS15 will be moving with us full time and visiting with BM in the summer and school breaks. We agreed to pay for some of the visits and she pays for remainder visits. 

BM called our attorney for advice! LOL

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Submitted by MountainMom on Sat, 03/06/2021 - 6:40am

As mentioned in previous blog, we are planning on moving out of state. Ss14 told his mom he wants to go with DH. At first she agreed, but now that it's her week, she is backtracking and giving ss hell for his decision. He called upset that she keeps telling him he can't go. I understand the turmoil she is going through, but still.

Moving out of state...seeking answers

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Submitted by MountainMom on Fri, 03/05/2021 - 6:43am

Hi everyone,

A little background: I have a 14 ( almost 15 year old ss). We share 50/50 custody with his mom. We do not have a good relationship with her but it's cordial. My husband has had to seek work out of state due to lack of work. He found a great job out of state, so he sat down with ss and bm and explained the situation. Ss told bm and hubby that he wants to move with us. He had a huge list of pros to go with the biggest being he wants to be with his dad.. Bm implied at the time that if that was what he wanted, they would work it out.