A few weeks ago dh and I git into b/c he thought I should make sure the house is spotless for his boys when they got here and they should clean anything since they weren't here.

Ok I get that to dome degree however it seems it doesn't apply to my kids. Dh just said today that since ds here we might as well use him. Meaning to help clean and get ready for Christmas since we are hosting.

Ok so my parents were foster parents for a while and got close to one kid. Her mom got her back and went on to have 3 more girls. So my parents stayed in contact like almost on a daily basis and she ands her new dh moved to moms town.

So anyway they invite this women and her kids and new dh to almost every family event. Last year at Christmas they started saying as soon as they got there they weren't staying long b/c we had some wine and other special adult drinks. (please not like they don't drink I've know them now for about 6 years) but they didn't leave.

He only had an arraignment and the trail date is the 9th of Jan so he will spend Christmas in jail.

Then xh sent ds19 a letter and ds just shrugged and said he wanted nothing to do with him and won't go see him. I think mainly b/c ds knows why xh is in jail and don't want anything to with that.

He has a huge list from rape to drive by shootings to drugs. Now child support

We had a bad ice/snow storm here. Most places are closed. this dh weekend for skids. dh actually wanted to pick them up tonight. What seriously? Our road is closed! Plus they live an hour away down a dirt road way out in bfe! really their drive was made when they built the house. It's a home made road! Ss18 coukdnt get out in his truck he tried.

Dh and I got into it b/c he wanted to go get them an hour away. He kept arguing that he gas a 4 wheel drive and he drove to work and back. First we live only 20 mins from his work and mostly on a paved.