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I hate BM#2 so much and its a problem

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Submitted by realitycheckmom on Thu, 07/12/2012 - 11:50am

I don't really have contact with BM#1 since those skids are 18 and 21. BM#2 ditches SS now 9 at 3 weeks on FMIL and then walked out on FDH and SS when SS was 3 yrs old. She is supposed to have every other week custody and she never took it til last week. I'm very pissed off that all of a sudden the woman that couldn't be bothered to make every other weekend and once went over six months without seeing this kid now wants every other week. He comes home a monster and I have enough problems from him as it is.

who is more stupid, BM or SS?

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Submitted by realitycheckmom on Sat, 06/30/2012 - 10:27pm

We are moving to our new house this weekend and its BM's weekend with SS. BM calls me Wednesday and wants me to drop SS off at her latest crash pad. I explain we are closing Thursday morning and can't. She counters with how I don't want two kids there and it will be difficult to close. Umm what planet are you from? I know she has never closed on a house so I just let it go. I tell her yeah I will manage. Then she says I can drop SS off on the way since I will pass right by. No I won't I am coming from a different place. Also SS has not seen the house and wants to see it and his new room.

OMG! FFIL lost his mind

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Submitted by realitycheckmom on Sun, 06/24/2012 - 5:09pm

Not only has FMIL lied and PASed SS now FFIL has told FDH that if he will get rid of me and DD FDH and SS can stay. Asshole we are about to close on a house and you have insulted me to the point I don't forsee you ever being invited to our home let alone our lives.

Oh I forgot the little gem of FFIL is also going to take us to court for visitation not custody. What the heck is wrong with people? Your wife is a liar and this is your son's child not yours. You don't seem to realize you are not G-d nor were you appointed leader of our family or the free world.

I'm struggling

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Submitted by realitycheckmom on Sun, 06/24/2012 - 8:15am

I don't know what to do or where to go. SS9 has been driving me up the wall lately and its all things that his dad and I have told him numerous times to not do. I have been telling a friend about some of the incidents and my friend who is a psychologist with a PhD has advised me to get SS evaluated for an attachment disorder. She feels his actions sound manipulative and not hardwired.

Helpful Site and books for step parents!!!!

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Submitted by realitycheckmom on Fri, 06/22/2012 - 10:17am

I talked to a friend who is a PhD. psychologist/therapist about my SS and she suggested a website (www.newharbinger.com) to get some books to help me to help him with his issues and while perusing the site I found a book geared to help children of narcissists.

I thought that some of you may find this book useful for your skids.

http://www.newharbinger.com/bookstore/productdetails.cfm?PC=589

sigh...a couple things

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Submitted by realitycheckmom on Mon, 06/18/2012 - 6:20pm

I have lost my mind being confined to the house the last week due to SS. He is quarantined and FDH and SS do not know the meaning of the word and every time I explain it they must think I am speaking a foreign language because they keep doing what I tell them not to do.

Now FDH says all the sores are healed and SS can be free and I'm still miserable because SS will be up my ass. Sigh. My mother keeps asking if we are sure he is safe to be around and I just want to go out.

Why am I so angry at this kid and how do I make it stop.

I knew it!!! (sorry to blog hog)

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Submitted by realitycheckmom on Wed, 06/13/2012 - 6:07pm

Turns out SS caught his illness while out with incubator. FDH called her and asked her where she took him and who he was around and told her what was going on. She tells FDH that this is probably for the best because she wasn't feeling up to getting him anyway. So I am now elected to once again care for her kid on her weekend because well it's flipping easier for her.

I shouldn't complain but WTH???

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Submitted by realitycheckmom on Wed, 06/13/2012 - 11:14am

So SS9 has hand,foot, and mouth syndrome. He has blisters on his whole head, hands and feet. The doctor tells SS that he has to be quarantined and cannot be around his dad because he is immuno-suppressed. SS doesn't blink an eye. When the doc says it will be until late this weekend when he can be out and about SS starts crying like a baby. Why? BECAUSE HE THINKS HE WON'T GET TO SEE THE INCUBATOR! WTF???

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