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GRRRRRR..... venting

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Submitted by Steamed on Wed, 03/28/2007 - 2:54pm

Yesterday was the first day that the weather was nice enough that we could have our first Little League practice. I coach my BS8 team, first practice, first impression of me for the parents of the kids on my team.

Anyway, my wife was meeting me at the field because I don't get off work on time for us to drive to the field together. I pull in behind her and find her, my BS8 and SS19 sitting in the vehicle waiting. I was kind of perturbed that SS19 was there.

He's clean

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Submitted by Steamed on Mon, 03/26/2007 - 2:28pm

SS drug test was clean, tested SD also, she was clean too.

Wife was really relieved ( she was shaking and turning white waiting for the results), she gave him a hug and thanked him for staying clean, I shook his hand and told him to keep it up.

I told my wife that I was glad that he was clean, but that there are still issues that need to be addressed with him and she said "one step at a time" , so I guess everything else that needs to be said to him will be forgotten since he made it past this hurdle.

Update

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Submitted by Steamed on Fri, 03/23/2007 - 10:47am

Seems like every day lately is another chapter in the drama...

First, had a talk with SD and sponge last night, he doesn't want to live with his mom, says that she is a psyco bitch, manipulative and controlling (his words). He wants to get his life together, start doing something and move forward. I again stated my reservations about trusting him, but was willing to listen. Please don't slam me too bad but I agreed to let him move back in with the following conditions which we actually wrote up as a contract that him and I both signed:

SS just doesn't get it and I'm getting fed up

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Submitted by Steamed on Thu, 03/22/2007 - 10:30am

SS got his paycheck today, now..., knowing that he has to scrimp and save his money to get prepared for school, knowing that he needs to put some money into the crappy car that his dad gave him before he will have transportation to get to school, knowing that he has bills that need to be paid, taxes, 4-wheeler, car insurance etc... what does he do?

Spends $140 on X-box games before he even gets home

What can I do to motivate this kid in an adult body and soon to be in an adult world?

I really hate being taken advantage of

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Submitted by Steamed on Wed, 03/21/2007 - 12:54pm

The SD's boyfriend (AKA "the sponge") showed up at our house yesterday..., SD left for night school and he left with her so I thought ok, he was here, but is gone again..., no problem with that. As I was getting ready for bed SD pops her head in our bedroom door and says "just wanted to let you know I was home from school", my wife said to her ok, who is with you?, and she said the sponge was. I said wait a minute, we discussed this, he doesn't stay over here, you don't stay over there, you are in the door every night by curfew.

Is there hope???

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Submitted by Steamed on Tue, 03/20/2007 - 4:19pm

I have been telling SS and my wife to call the tech school rep to explain the situation, maybe they can help somehow. They finally did and guess what, the rep said that if he sends a letter explaining why he cannot get a cosigner for his loan the school will underwrite the loan and consider it a hardship issue. This means that there is still a chance that he could go to school !!!!

I'm not sure what is involved or how it works but that is what my wife was told on the phone. I don't really care, as long as it gets this kid on the road to his own life it works for me.

SS postponing school

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Submitted by Steamed on Mon, 03/19/2007 - 1:25pm

Well, SS won't be going to school anytime soon. I had to fill out all the grant/loan paperwork for him because the wife said neither one of them understood it. I said no problem, but this is something that he should be doing, it's his responsibility. But in the interest of getting this ball rolling I said I would do it, nothing that complicated really, but anyway I did it.

SS update

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Submitted by Steamed on Fri, 02/09/2007 - 2:43pm

Reading through my posts I saw that someone was asking for an update on this situation. I have been very sick with the flu and then bronchitis, took 6 days off work and am now just getting to the point where I feel normal again. It really knocked me off my rocker for a while so I apoligize for not being around here for a while.

Anybody have experience collecting Child support?

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Submitted by Steamed on Fri, 02/09/2007 - 1:13pm

Heres the situation, my sons BM has never really been a part of his life, before we divorced she never had time for him and couldn't wait for me to get home at the end of the day so she could head out the door to party with her friends. After the divorce, she cared even less about him. I have primary custody and she has court ordered supervised visits, which she has not taken advantage of for at least two years. Thats right, she hasn't seen him in at least two years, no phone calls on his b-day, christmas, nothing at all.

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