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Hate vs. Love (Thankfully, My Love for SS11 Won Over My Usually Spiteful Tongue)

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Submitted by TheOtherMom on Sat, 08/21/2010 - 11:12pm

When we picked up the skids yesterday for the annual hand off, SS11 didn't cry as he usually does after each summer. I honestly think he is coming to terms with it, very slowly.
HOWEVER, BM saw both kids weren't crying and then started crying and said "won't you miss me?" and then SS11 ran back and hugged her and choked up.

This Morning

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Submitted by TheOtherMom on Sat, 08/21/2010 - 7:20am

I woke up this morning to the sound of bare feet slapping on the tile floors of the house and movement in my bed. I thought it was the dog ... but when I smelled kitty litter breath near my ear I realized SS9 had crawled in to bed and just wanted to hug.
These precious moments, these little wonders.
I shall miss them as he gets older Smile

Long Vent.

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Submitted by TheOtherMom on Tue, 08/17/2010 - 7:58pm

Alright. Venting is helpful.
I registered SS11 for 6th grade today. Everything was fine until I went to the ID Card area. He needs his ID to ride the bus.
I explained that SS11 is not with me and is "away" for the summer (I hate explaining the custody agreement to admin. I just give up the POA and let them figure out the rest.)
The nice ID Card lady asked if I could bring him in before school starts next week because it will be hectic next week.
I text BM (this has been the first time I text her in a VERY long time) as DH is away for work.

New-ish Law for Military Parents

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Submitted by TheOtherMom on Thu, 08/12/2010 - 1:41pm

There is a new law that came out in September of 2009 and it is federal ... if a parent is deploying, if they are custodial or have full custody, they can draw up temporary orders while they are absent as to where their children will live. This does NOT have to be the bio-parent as long as the parent has reason to not put them with the bio-parent while they are gone.
I wanted to post this in case someone does a search for "new law", "military parents", "deploying", or whatever ....
It gave us a breath of relief.

The Price of Ignorance

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Submitted by TheOtherMom on Wed, 08/11/2010 - 10:22pm

Today was definitely a Wednesday. You know how those days are ... middle of the week, and deservingly called "hump day" because after this day the rest of week skates by. Unless you have a job where you work weekends. Then that just stinks.

Well, it has been an eventful week building up to meeting with DH's lawyer that we were going to fire. Bottom line: she needs to fire her staff.

Suspicious

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Submitted by TheOtherMom on Tue, 08/10/2010 - 9:02pm

How is that there are members who only comment albeit extremely harsh, on other people's posts but don't blog their own events? Are these the BMs to watch out for?

Venting IS Healthy Darn it!

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Submitted by TheOtherMom on Wed, 08/04/2010 - 8:42pm

Reading other post tonight made me look back on my own blog ...
I think I am getting better and learning, albeit VERY SLOWLY, how to deal with BM and our whole situation. At this rate, by the time the children are in high school, theoretically I should be okay ... THEORETICALLY.
Have you ever read your old blogs and been proud of yourself for growing up or for gaining a skill or something that proves all this venting IS HEALTHY?

Grieving

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Submitted by TheOtherMom on Mon, 08/02/2010 - 2:39pm

I am overwhelmed with grief as I type this.
Today, we found out our lawyer has not contacted us when they should have and that BM is trying to fight for the case to stay in her state.
This has been devastating for DH.
I am at work and cannot concentrate.
I can't stand the thought of losing the boys ... it will crush DH's world and mine ... how do I deal with this?

Lesson Learned

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Submitted by TheOtherMom on Sat, 07/17/2010 - 5:54pm

The kids have been gone for the summer and DH and I have enjoyed our time together.
Admittedly, I am a little perturbed that we make them available to BM so she can call whenever she likes but we can barely get ahold of them. As a result, we have to call her.
I guess I would just like a little courtesy? As DH puts it, "how can you expect a pikie to be courteous? She doesn't have the ability to comprehend it."
He can be so tactful but I guess he is right.
I suppose I shall have to rise above?

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