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Submitted by Thetis on Thu, 04/22/2010 - 1:12pm

Has anyone noticed that its perfectly ok for you to inform your Dh about milestones that the skids have hit ahead of time, but if you are worried about them being slow on something it becomes a war?
I don't understand how Dh can not be worried about his almost four year old daughter not being able to use the potty, wipe herself, dress herself or even hold a crayon well enough to draw.

When is it time to see a Dr?

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Submitted by Thetis on Wed, 04/14/2010 - 12:15pm

So my Sd is almost four (She turns four in June). She can not (or will not) use the potty. She will hold a bowel movement untill she is sick or she will hide when she poops in her pants and lie if we ask her about an accident. A good friend of mine, with four bio-kids of her own, is worried that there could be something physically wrong with her. I'm not sure if I should be worried.

Spin off Snowflakes blog about BMs and biokids.

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Submitted by Thetis on Wed, 04/14/2010 - 11:20am

Honestly I would rather my Nudger (to be born in July) to spend a weekend with my Sd's mom over my FIL. He has tried to get BM to fight his son (my dh) with him so he could take one of our two monthly weekends.

So I was wondering...in this crazy step world, is there anyone else out there who has tried to keep the crazies (even blood relatives) away from their kids? How sucessful can you be with this?

I don't want FIL anywhere near my baby.
I don't want SIL to have my child without me around.
I don't want FIL's girlfriend to even know the baby exists (too late).

I'm like a mamma bear!

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Submitted by Thetis on Thu, 04/08/2010 - 11:08am

So we're talking to our counsellor last night and it was supposed to just be paper work but Dh wanted to give him more back ground on us so we can be better grouped. They have a group of counsellors that will review our file (like right now) and pick who is best suited for us. We get into a bunch of things that bother us and the counsellor literally laughs at me. I had pulled out a note that I had written (color coded) for Dh explaining actions that I don't like and why.

My turn to worry about Counselling.

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Submitted by Thetis on Wed, 04/07/2010 - 11:38am

So me and Dh have our first counselling meeting tonight. I hope it goes well, and I hope they dont kick us out because we are getting along right now. I think this is the biggest thing on my mind. We are not fighting right now so what if they decide that we dont need to be there? We have this cycle, maybe its the moon... where we can get along for two weeks then we bicker for a week and then we FIGHT for a week.
Anyone else notice these patterns in your own relationships?
What is the first meeting with a counsellor usually like?

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