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Ohh selfish me...

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Submitted by Thetis on Wed, 02/17/2010 - 12:00pm

So Dh has been applying for a job out of town with my father. This is a job with oppertunities for advancement and possible trades training. It comes with a pay increase of about $800 a month, but is a 12 hour drive away. I'm excited for him. He has been stuck at the same shit job for the last 8 years of his life. His dad is one of his bosses and there is no room for advancement. The job out of town is a week on, then week off. However with travelling it would be about 5 days home.

Stop me from doing something stupid.

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Submitted by Thetis on Sat, 02/13/2010 - 2:34pm

I want to call Bm.
I want to ask if we can get along.
I want to tell her my fears about SD and the baby me and her dad are expecting.
I want to talk to her about the things her daughter says about being a sibling and sharing her dad.
I want to know I have another team member and not someone against us.
I want to show her all the super cute pics I have of our daughter.
I want to laugh with her about the silly things sd does.
I want to forgive her for the dumb things in the past and help myself and her learn from them.

Wow... just wow...

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Submitted by Thetis on Fri, 02/12/2010 - 7:45pm

So I'm sitting here reading Bonus Families, thinking about how awesome it would be if I could have a relationship with Bm like the girls from the site. I'm thinking about all the shitty things that have happened and all of the trouble that we have gone through. The site talks about how Bms usually have the same type of insecurities as the new girlfriend/wife. Then there is a knock on the door.
Dh looks at me...
"Were you expecting anyone"
Me...
"No..."
We are both completely confused. SO I get up to answer the door and Dh follows behind me.

My business.... grrr

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Submitted by Thetis on Wed, 02/10/2010 - 2:58pm

My fiance had a conversation with his ex, you know the fling that ended up pregnant? Before talking to me about it he asked if my step daughter will be allowed around me when I am breastfeeding our child. In my opinion, this is none of her business untill it becomes an issue. I feel that breastfeeding is a privet thing between mother and child so I plan to have a big comfy chair in the nursery where I can be alone. (I'm only 18 weeks preggo) It really hurt me that he would talk to her about it first.

Modesty

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Submitted by Thetis on Wed, 02/10/2010 - 2:03pm

I'm newish to this whole "mom/stepmom" thing so any advice would be great.

I'm wondering when should a child begin to have a sense of modesty, and what is privet? My 3 1/2 year old step daughter was drawing pictures with her dad this weekend, he said he was going to draw her. She asked him to draw her bum, he said "Well no". Then she asked him to draw her 'doodie" (the word her mother has taught her for vagina). This little conversation bothers me.

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