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Understanding his past relationship

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Submitted by Toofreeforthis on Mon, 10/01/2018 - 10:15am

I have hit this same roadblock multiple times and has thought I'd gotten past it. But yesterday I went down the rabbit hole of old emails and became fascinated in a sociologist kind of way in what my FH's relationship with BM looked like after their divorce. I felt the need to understand why he is so solicitous towards her and why his parents are so generous towards her. 

Escape ideas?

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Submitted by Toofreeforthis on Mon, 09/17/2018 - 7:32am

Looking for some ideas for an escape from the family home when the kids are here. I especially want to avoid the meals. That is when the tension is the worst and I would love to avoid the inane conversations. 

Idealy, I would love to have my own apartment that I can escape to, but it really is usually just 4 days a month and it would not go over well with FH. 

Or maybe some ideas to make family meals more tolerable?

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Submitted by Toofreeforthis on Sun, 09/16/2018 - 3:28pm

Hi. I'm new. I feel like I should announce myself like in AA. I'm toofreeforthis and I'm marrying a man with kids. 

I've been lurking and reading on steptalk for months. I've disengaged when the skids are here. My issue is with my DH to be. I feel like he treats me differently when his kids are here. We live together and only have the skids (12 SS and 11 SD) every other weekend. The kids are fine-just your typical kids. My own kids are 21 and 18 and away at college-thus the "free" in my name. 

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