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SS and trust issues, any ideas on how to deal with it?

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Submitted by winnie on Wed, 06/15/2011 - 9:18am

SS has MAJOR trust issues. It takes forever to even get close to him and if one bad thing happens you get shut out. It does not even matter who did the offending act. Everyone gets shut out. The ex-wife pulls stupid crap all the time but SS ends up being cold to my husband and I instead. Sometimes it takes weeks for him to come around again. I want him to go to therapy but he will not even entertain the idea. How do you help people overcome this? We have been nothing but supportive for a while now but it has no effect on him.

The backlash begins :(

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Submitted by winnie on Tue, 06/14/2011 - 10:42am

After telling SS about the CPS threat his mother made, SS immediately called up CPS to tell them about it. He said he spoke to someone and they kept it on record that the cow made a threat. He is going to file a RO on his mother. Can you imagine the crapstorm that will create? We are doing the same. Anyone know how long it normally takes? Of course, SS has become ice cold with us again. He said we should stop seeing each other weekends for a while. And he said this through a voicemail. My husband tried calling but SS is not picking up. I hate this.

I am really upset

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Submitted by winnie on Mon, 06/13/2011 - 2:15pm

My husband called SS about his mother's CPS threat. There was some muffling and SS starts saying, What do I do? I don't know what to do. He was crying Sad I was crying too because I felt so bad for him. I told him to call the people at CPS and ask them what to do. The bitch is so stupid she left a voicemail we can use as proof. SS said ok and hung up. My husband and I are really upset right now. I cannot even share any of this with anyone for support. All I have is this site.

The devil rears her head once more, afraid of telling SS

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Submitted by winnie on Mon, 06/13/2011 - 12:28pm

We just got a voicemail from the statanic ex-wife herself saying that she was afraid for SS's daughter's safety and will be contacting CPS soon. WHAT A BITCH!! We are so afraid to tell SS because he might shut himeslf off from us again. Just when we were getting better. We have been to see SS every weekend so far. I was wondering why she was so quiet. The hag must have been coming up with ways to harm her own son all this while. ARGH! I HATE HATE HATE THAT WOMAN!

Going to visit SS with my husband this time. He better keep his mouth shut.

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Submitted by winnie on Fri, 05/27/2011 - 7:39am

We are going tomorrow to stay the night at SS's apartment. I can tell SS is still angry at my husband but I think its time they got past this. We are going to be there from Saturday afternoon till Sunday evening. SS organized a lunch on Sunday for us and some friends he made in the apartment building. They are either single mothers or couples with babies themselves. They created this babysitting circle where they take turns babysitting for each other. It is a pretty neat idea.

Good feeling gone...

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Submitted by winnie on Thu, 05/26/2011 - 8:31am

I was just going through some of the photos and documents that my husband brought back yesterday. Some of the photos have my husband's face scratched out. And some of them have SS's face coloured out with black a marker. These are pictures of when SS was as young as 8. And the markings look recent :(. Lucky there around 30 pictures that are ok. And I looked at SS's birth certificate, my husband's name was scratched out. I am so glad I saw this before SS did. And lucky we did not tell SS we got the documents yet. We were going to tell him tonight.

Good news!

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Submitted by winnie on Wed, 05/25/2011 - 1:56pm

My husband just called. He got the box of documents! SS was smart enough to put them in one place. He also stashed a boat load of photographs that he wanted. We knew the bitch could have just refused to give the stuff even if we had a police escort. But our friend managed to have a few people over at my husband's ex-wife's house. She could not have made a scene without looking like a complete loon. SS will be very happy. Phew, that went better than we thought. It is a good thing my husband knew the sheriff. We were able to get the stuff earlier than expected.

Wish us luck!

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Submitted by winnie on Wed, 05/25/2011 - 10:02am

My husband is going to go with a police escort this afternoon to get SS's documents and photos from his ex-wife. We also arranged it such that Nancy, a friend who is also a "friend" of ss's mother, was going to be there too. That way, the bitch will be less likely to go berserk. I hope it goes smoothly.

Getting papers from SS's mother's house, help!

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Submitted by winnie on Tue, 05/24/2011 - 10:05am

SS wants to get some of his original documents and photos from his mother's house. But after everything that happened, he does not want to go and get them. He asked my husband to go get them. Ok, how do we even go about asking for them? SS is terrified that his mother might do something crazy and destroy the documents. He only has photocopies of a few, like his birth certificate and medical records. He said they are in a box in the garage. He also wants some family photos, of himself, his aunt and his grandfather who he loved a lot. What are we supposed to do? Just call her up?

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