Hello everyone.... life is just moving along for me. I just got promoted at work and am thrilled with that!!

I have been doing some dating and have not found anyone that I'm remotely interested in. I have decided that I will no longer date men with children that are younger. That life is not for me. I've also thinking that I don't need a man at all. So I'm working on myself. I'm working out doing a lot of reading and hanging out with lots of friends.

At the wise advise of one of the ladies on step talk I have decided to post my entire story to get some feed back. Some of my recent blogs/posts have only had parts of my story. I will try to be brief. My self and my ex finance are in our mid - forties. He has two school aged kids. We broke up maybe 2 1/2 ish month ago. We were living together but I now have my own place.

Some days I wonder if the break up was for good reason.. you tell me your thoughts.

I've been browsing topics for a while on this site and many of you give advice to disengage from skids. Have separate bank accounts. Do holidays separate because your spouse would rather hang with his or her prior family etc. Or you have the situation like I had where you are an outsider and the kid and ex are the main priority.

My question is what kind of marriage can it be if you are married yet living like a single person? Is it even worth it if you have separate lives?

Ok so it's literally been three weeks and my ex has a new SO. He texted me to let me know he has a new gf and that this woman is okay with him doing whatever he needs to do to make his kids happy. She is okay with the enmeshment with the ex wife on a daily regular basis etc. so I guess I'm just a crazy person for leaving him.

I did not respond to his text. Not sure how he could have moved on this fast. I am hurt.