If it appears that Chief can't afford CS on his own income than how does adding yours help. As you said you're not married. You could walk away tomorrow even if you didn't BM can not come after your funds.

I don't see how this is apart of complete disclosure. It's invasive and overstepping.

It's fine to share that you live together and so his rent is lower. That he pays less in bills. Stuff like that but unless I had a judge saying I had to tell what I made I'd tell the lawyer no.

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No way in hell. I mean, if you were married, I could see that they'd want a tax return that might have your income on it but what's keeping you from moving out today? Then your income wouldn't even exist.

Isn't it filed with the court that the Gir requested to forego all CS AND is willing to facilitate the means for Chef and skids to reconcile?

I am not an attorney or have any sort of legal background by any capacity. I live in Canada and typically, our laws are somewhat similar to yours in the USA- generally the guidelines are kind of the same. But what I can tell you from experience, in 2014/15 BM had filed for an increase in CS and the B got her lawyer (as SO could not afford one at the time), to impute my income as SO was claiming hardship, CS did go down as I was pregnant and there was a change in circumstance. We were living together, so the household income was used but I will say- I did not have to pay CS to her- she wanted my university school records with grades, my tax returns, how much CS I was receiving for my daughter- it was fucking crazy. I gave it to her, like a m-o-r-o-n but marked out my sin # and any other important #s. (Turns out I shouldn't have given my info to her- ANY of it, as we were common law and living together under 3 years- with no child, yet).

I told SO never again will I be involved in this, and on paper we are separated as I am to provide my tax return info to her every year and we aren't even fucking married- it is insane- I got this idea from the lovely ladies on here a few years ago.

Look up what the laws are for common law couples and married couples...it sounds like his lawyer is trying to be above board, maybe you could move out or convince his lawyer, you are leaving him because this is too much stress on you- not sure if you could even claim spousal support as he has maintained a certain lifestyle for you- I don't know- this may be a little far fetched.

What I do know is that step parents are not responsible for CS unless they have adopted the child or the child lived with the bio and step parent full time and the relationship ended between the step parent and the bio parent, the step parent can be on hook for CS for the kid, even though its not biologically his, insane the laws here in Canada. So a BM can receive CS from the dad and the step-dad at the same time.

So yep, I am protecting my family from the wicked witch.

Its up to you, if you want to be honest or protect your sanity- its a tough spot to be in- Given my past experience as I took the honest route (now I'm taking the sane route): I would separate on paper, move out, something- if she is as nosey as mine that is the only way to protect your sanity and keep peace in your life. How long is CS going to continue on for? - if you can handle a few years of paying CS than take the honest route and provide the info, just block out your ssn and any other pertinent numbers in the paper work. If you have had enough- time to separate on paper or physically. Sorry if this is long. Best of luck. Most people lie in court anyways.

- it duplicated.

When my sister was unmarried and living with her husband she had to share her unemployment income during her now husband's review.

Your not married and this relationship CAN end at any moment. WTH.

Have your 'boyfriends' lawyer site YOU the states code that requires room mates to disclose financials in for a custody case. That is bs Thinkthrice.

Do not hand this over to anyone without being strong armed WITH back up state codes.

Hmmmm, lets see how much money is at dads disposal to fight and fight for years and years in family court. Thinktrice can pay the bills and dad's income (or most of it) can pay lawyer fees.

I have heard of this before during request for productions. MOVE Out if you have too. Heck married couples pretend to be seperated to collect stuff, why not people who are NOT married.

NOPE.....NOPE NOPE....I would find a new lawyer too. HE IS FISHING to see how far HE can go.

JMO

I have never heard of anyone’s girlfriends required to provide incomes to anyone. Many girlfriends and boyfriends have completely separate finances and don’t contribute to each other at all even if they share a bed or a house etc Are you filing taxes together? If not how is it anyone’s business what you make? If he can’t afford to pay CS then it needs to be lowered to reflect what he makes. Girlfriend’s income is irrelevant here. It might be your choice to help him with CS but not an obligation. This is crazy making.

I’d move out before I subimiited my income and my DH pays huge alimony to lazy BM and we are actually married.

If and only if it is mandated in your state and there is no way around this (I would pay for a consultation with a different lawyer to verify) then I would consider giving the information. At the end of the day I do not see what BM can really do with it, other than be jealous. The state will have a set way to calculate the payments and I would rather pay a few extra dollars if my income was included than pay hundreds or thousands more to live separately from my partner. I understand your reluctance, but if it really is the way things are done where you are then there may be little you can do about it. Refusing to reveal the information, so preventing any court action, may be more harmful than just revealing it.

No way would I ever want any of my information given. In Canada a step parent can end up paying child support even after the break up as long as Loco Parentis can be established and your information being used is one more step in establishing that. Check your local laws but I would absolutely refuse.

“Similarly, for married couples, the federal Divorce Act defines a “child of the marriage” to include “any child for whom [the couple] both stand in the place of parents, and any child of whom one is the parent and for whom the other stands in the place of a parent.” This is frequently called the loco parentis test.

In determining whether someone has stood in loco parentis to a child, a court will consider a number of factors, including:

how long the person was in a parenting role;
the level of the person’s involvement in the child’s day-to-day life, discipline, extra-curricular activities, and schooling;
whether the person contributed financially to the child during the relationship;
whether the child participated in activities, holidays, etc with the person’s extended family;
the person’s relationship with the child after separation, including whether the person exercised visitation rights or continued to participate in the child’s activities;
whether the child referred to the person as their parent;
the involvement of the biological parent in the child's life; and
any discussion relating to the possible adoption of the child.
As you’ve probably guessed by now, for the court to properly consider these factors takes time, evidence and therefore money.

Retreat is not an Option

Once the loco parentis bond is formed, the step-parent cannot withdraw from it unilaterally. Just like a biological parent that cuts contact with their children, a withdrawn step parent can be required to continue payments. The court will focus on both the child’s need for support and the child’s perception of their relationship with the step-parent.

While the court has discretion as to the amount of support payable, the presumption is that the standard Child Support Guideline amounts will apply to biological and step-children alike.”
http://www.christiecummings.com/news-blog/2013/04/23/step-parents-can-pa...