Help....Christmas Lunch dilemma - stay with DH... or spend it alone with my biokids somewhere special.?????
OK....so the shits hit the fan over Christmas Lunch....
background:
the skids who have worked with their mother (psycho slag BM) saying Im some stepmonster from hell, and they dont want anything to do with me my kids my DH's family etc etc...went to court and the bitch tried for more money but didnt get it blah blah blah....
so after all this went down....
Dh's family said the skids were now NOT invited to thanksgiven at the mil's nor are they invited to christmas lunch....they were severed
Then yesterday
I find out the skids ARE NOW going to christmas lunch at the mils. Apparently my DH told SIL that, according to her BS 13?????
So my BIOD 17 said 'she wuld rather shoot herself in the face than have Christmas lunch with them 2 faced FERAL liars'...I agreed and so called my DH and said Im bailing out of xmas lunch...me and my kids will do our own xssy thing, you go with your spawns to your moms and enjoy....OH AND in future....Ill be heading back to AUstralia every 2nd year having xmas lunch with my family....your welcome to come....or spend the time with your sons (14 and 16) passed out by the BM and recruited as child soldiers in her hate war against me. I just cant be around me or ill be accused of fiddling with them next....besides they make me miserable
Now my SIL feels the same and now she wants to come with me for Chirstmas, the MIL is in tears & says us girls are spoiling her christmas - I need to call but to say wot? She also has told the skids they cant come to christmas lunch now. Im thinking, Ill be put in a more hated position...
DH is at work with a bucket of head in the sand ; obviously
wot should I do?
please help me guys????
apparently she is saying how
apparently she is saying how she is getting old and doesnt have many xmas's left....and I understand that....but...all the more reason she should spend it with her horrible grand children....and her gorgeous son....
Yes....I could go now since
Yes....I could go now since the grandkids have been told they cant.....
But isnt Xmas for kids...not us adults....?
My kids and I could do something fun....I know of others orphaned for xssy lunch and was considering staying down with them and doing a big banquet...
My husband seems to consider my idea crazy, but hasnt completely refused it (which makes me think he had a hand in this....trying to gloss it over)
and lastly...
I think its a good opportunity for him to be alone with his ball droppings on a significant day like Christmas so he can do his thing with them....maybe just maybe they may notice that Dad's not happy when his wicked wife isnt with him....but then maybe not...
I am sort of leading to getting the DH to sort this shit out....last night I was ready to just divorce....damn the lot of them...
Yeah, right - she is probably
Yeah, right - she is probably good for another 20 years - the ones that say "this might be my last Xmas" in a pathetic voice usually are. Total emotional blackmail. Go and have a nice Xmas with your bios, is my advice, and leave the poisonous MIL and SKIDS to their own devices.
Just stay out of the mess.
Just stay out of the mess. Do your own thing...She was playing both sides and got burned for it. Maybe next time she will learn what is in her best interest. My MIL still hasn't about SD, so I have no contact and as far as I am concerned my IL's do not really exist. Love my FIL, but you can't have him without her...Just stay away and let her have her GK's....
Geez, take the burdon off you
Geez, take the burdon off you and your kids. Less Drama and enjoy your holiday. I say go do your own thing with the ones that you love and love you. Life if just too short to be with negative unhappy drama people. This is Christmas and is about love. Good luck to you - and remember to breath and move on.
>>>the MIL is in tears & says
>>>the MIL is in tears & says us girls are spoiling her christmas<<<
Don't ever fall for this. They think we're ridiculously stupid, but we know better.
I would do my own thing with my kids and be happy I'm not in that cesspool of crazy.
UPDATE....UPDATE
UPDATE....UPDATE UPDATE.....
GUYS;
MIL came out to see me personally and to discuss the matter at hand.
She made it clear to me that she had never invited the skids....they invited themselves....The older Golden Child said that he would drive them both to the xmas dinner....MIL was suspicious bc in 9 mths she had repeatedly asked the golden child 16 to drive (1 hour) to see her & FIL one Sunday and ss16 kept saying 'mom wont let me' MIL felt bitch BM was suggesting he drive to xmas lunch knowing full well how much trouble they would cause.
DH came home from work to say He had told the skids they were not welcome to come to xmas lunch ages ago...and to put the phones back on the hook...cos I was refusing all calls and txts
SIL was so upset that her son had been talking to them skids and is now printing out fb chats to prove how the skids manipulate and lie to her son (my nephew)
So....YES....Im going to the xmas lunch now....MIL begged me and I started the crying stuff so all fixed guys...well for now that is...
I told the MIL my reasons as per all your suggestions....so once again...thanks for that...
Im happy to go to xmas lunch now....but Im a bit disappointed cos I was going to have a huge boozy lunch with some mates on the river....I was taking the weber to cook the turkey...they were going to cook the ham....oh well...next year Im gunnu be sweating in Australia in the heat whilst I eat hot turkey...at my sisters....so cant wait....oh and by the way skids...YOU ARE NOT INVITED ... best way to save 5 grand eva.
cant wait for that one