I forgot my password but somehow I got into my old account but here goes. It has been two years since I've had to get on here and vent. Ss stopped coming around after I had the baby. His mom blames me somehow because of it. She was sending him here in the same clothes he'd had on for weeks. He was covered in dog hair and smelled. He was being dropped off at all hours and days. Imagine 12:30 at night. I was about to have our baby. We talked to him numerous times about boundaries. It did no good. I found out all of this was being done for spite.

Hello all, I could use some advice.

Background: our 13 year old daughter wanted a phone, we didn't think she should have one yet (I know this opinion is rather rare these days, but we live in France and things are a bit different here). The point is, it's something I feel really strongly about.  BM forced DH into mediation about it where they agreed they would wait until June 2023 and make a decision together. We were planning to allow the phone this summer, with a lot of restrictions/oversight. 

Once in a while out of boredom and my curiosity I cyber-stalk BM just to see why we haven't heard from her. (Nothing hard-core necessary because she's not very techie)

On her bio at her work she had the audacity to say she lives with her TWO kids, SS (who lives with us 100% now) and her daughghter and her husband. 

This is the mom who hasn't talked to or seen her own son for a year, but you go girl, right? *bad*

I have been dating SO for about 4 months, now, but we've known each other for longer. Throughout our friendship, we've been just that, friends, nothing more, nothing less. I've known about him and BM's issues, and how after he ran through some financial hardships in August of 2019, and he requested of her to get a job- she said she would, but as of April 2020, when SO and I got together, she hasn't moved her bum to do anything. She doesn't clean, nor cook for her own kids.

Wow. It's been a long time since I've been here. 

My last post was about the modification hearing. It was heard in September and the judge has STILL not made a decision. Like what the eff is that about??

Anyway, "quarantine" or whatever has been, for the most part, miserable. Oh and BM tried to say she could keep SD basically indefinitely because the schools shut down right before Spring Break and this year Spring Break was BM's time. We shut that down real quick. 

Is there a way I can find out what my son's mother is using my child support payments for? She doesn't work. She's gets about $500 in food stamps a month, she lives with her parents and doesn't pay rent. Her husband is currently in Federal Prison, and about $140,000 was released to her when he was first incarcerated. Plus, I pay her about $600 in child support every month and our son is on my insurance so he gets free healthcare.

Why do these bitches continue to try to manipulate and control their ex's lives? We have this issue all the damn time, and then because I no longer allow her to have a say in "what goes or doesn't" in MY home, she starts bullshitting at my DH saying "why are you letting others fill your mind with crap" (me) LOL, bitch, it's crap that I don't allow my husband to continue kissing your ass? OK.

Some times I wonder if I could go back in time and decide to not move forward in a serious relationship w a man who shares a child w another woman, would I? I was only 22 at the time.. but our chemistry was so palpable it was a whirlwind first month of dating. Love came quickly and easily. I had no idea what was in my (4yr) future, didn't have online resources for help, certainly had no friends w experiences. 
 

I'm so tired....

ive been with my bf for 4 years and I'm at the point where I'm ready for marriage. His SS and I have the best relationship and he loves me dearly. Although I will never like the way he was conceived (1 night stand) we're still amicable and have a good schedule w his bio mother. 
 

Bf is nearing 30 and I'm in my mid 20s. He thinks the issue lies w financial aspects but I just don't understand that bc nothing much would change. 

I'm so tired....

ive been with my bf for 4 years and I'm at the point where I'm ready for marriage. His SS and I have the best relationship and he loves me dearly. Although I will never like the way he was conceived (1 night stand) we're still amicable and have a good schedule w his bio mother. 
 

Bf is nearing 30 and I'm in my mid 20s. He thinks the issue lies w financial aspects but I just don't understand that bc nothing much would change.