Or awful of me that I can't even read posts from new members anymore? I just don't want to get sucked in to a game. I keep thinking about the uproar from last week and thinking that every new member is one of "them" and they're just trying to get us to let our guards down, then WHAM!! I always wonder now if they're posing to try to "out" one of our members. It's awful too b/c there have been a few that I can empathize with and maybe offer some advice, but I always think it's all made up as well.

I wish I wouldn't have to question this haven that I made for myself.

are really a result of issues with the couple? I see so many people on here recommmending couples counseling, relationship therapy, etc. How many of us on here would actually benefit if our SO actually just took a PARENTING CLASS?? How many of the problems would disappear if our SO would actually PARENT their child(ren)?

I think FH is getting it. After almost three years together, three years of drama and fights and arguments and tears, he finally understands. Our relationship is stronger than it ever was. We are both dedicating time to our relationship, FH is making time for us to develop as a couple. I'm actually happy girls.

FH and I, (FH more than me) decided on trying out a "family" dinner with the BM once every couple of months. This is to show the kids that we all get along, and that they can't pit one parent against the other. FH and I agreed to try it once, and if I have any misgivings, we won't pursue them anymore. BM was agreeable, but at that point, she would have agreed to anything we said. (Ladies: Keeping records are extremely helpful, especially when you can circumvent court by showing BM all the proof you have of what a shitty parent she is). I'm pretty iffy on that.