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Stupid question, but I am asking anyway.

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Submitted by amy257 on Mon, 08/31/2009 - 3:01pm

Ok, I feel very stupid in asking how to deal with this, but I am really not sure with how things are in my relationship with my SD11. Here goes... Over the last couple of weeks, I feel a competition brewing between the two of us on who sits on the couch next to FH. I know it sounds stupid, but FH always sits on one side of the couch. Either SD11 or I sit on the other side. Last week, I sat there and she sat on the floor next to the couch on the side of her father where I could not see her. The minute I got up to do something, she jumped quickly to the couch.

Vacation with blended family

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Submitted by amy257 on Thu, 08/13/2009 - 3:19pm

My FH, and step kids are leaving for Boston/New York on vacaton for 10 days on Saturday. I already have a "pit" in my stomach because presently my SD11 wants nothing to do with me and I feel like an outsider when we are all together. She completely ignores me and wants nothing to do with me. Doesn't say nasty things or anything, just acts like I am invisible. SS13 and I on the other hand have a great relationship. They kids just returned from vacation with their mom and we get them tonight.

No time for our relationship

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Submitted by amy257 on Sat, 08/08/2009 - 7:07pm

I am sure this is nothing new for many in this group, but with two stepchildren, agess 11 and 13, I feel my FH and I am always running to some event for one of them. I really feel this is having an effect on our relationship and my insecurity of always coming #2. He is a great dad, don't get me wrong. He can't work late on the days the kids are with us, so he then works late on the days we don't leaving me alone. He, then being a guy, has no idea what I am upset about. How have some of you made sure your relationship had its own time?