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divorced parents battle over religion and education

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Thu, 01/27/2011 - 12:42pm

I was watching the news this morning, and I saw coverage of a story that piqued my attention as a SM. Apparently, the dad wants his daughter to attend public school, but the mom wanted her to be homeschooled. The child had been homeschooled for the most part, but attended public school for Art, PE and Spanish.

Hating younger stepkids under 18

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Mon, 01/24/2011 - 1:16pm

I think at some point, we've all hated our stepkids, or at least have thought that we really hate them.

Some questions that could serve as food for thought for us SMs:

1) Why do we hate, or think we hate, our stepkids?

My answer: I know that I thought I hated my stepkids because they were rude, unclean, and uncivilized. However, they were younger (early elementary school years) and were living with BM, who makes neanderthals look good.

2) Why don't we direct our hatred towards our DHs?

For NCP BioDads: Instead of guilt-parenting,

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Sun, 01/16/2011 - 3:40pm

-why not enforce some basic boundaries. Take a good look at a lot of the criminals out there. Do you want your kids to end up being like them? You may think, "why should I enforce rules? It's useless since they're with CP BM 80% of the time anyway." I say: you want to be able to know you did all you could to prevent your kids from being criminals. Even if they do become criminals, you want to be able to truthfully tell everyone you did your best. You should want to give your kids a fighting chance.

If/why BM...

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Fri, 01/14/2011 - 12:23pm

If BM:

Would act like an adult, what % of our problems as SMs do you think would go away?

Would at least act nice to us, do you think our skids would act nice too?

Why BM:

Acts the way she does: do you think it could be because a) nobody plans on getting divorced and having to see your kids with another woman, especially if that woman was the "other woman", b) because they want to hurt their ex, or c) both?

Natalie Portman will be a SM in a movie called "The Other Woman."

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Tue, 12/28/2010 - 12:01pm

It will be coming out fairly soon. I saw the trailer and I haven't made up my mind as to whether I'll see it or not. I really like Natalie Portman so I might just go see it. What do you think about it so far? Do you think you'll see it?

Here's the trailer:

http://justjared.buzznet.com/2010/12/28/natalie-portman-the-other-woman-...

Calling CPS on BM

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Sat, 12/18/2010 - 8:41pm

Have you ever called CPS on BM, and what were the results?

DH and I have called CPS on BM because she had the kids living in squalor and was letting them get molested. She was letting registered sex offenders live at her house. CPS gave the kids to us, and we were awarded temporary custody of them until our custody battle was over. We won full custody of them. Those calls to CPS were very helpful, because the judge got to see their reports and the pictures they took of BM's house and learn about how skids were abused.

The word "respect"

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Tue, 12/07/2010 - 9:18pm

In reading a lot of blog entries and going through my life, I've come to the conclusion that the word "respect" is used an awful lot in blended/stepfamilies.

I know that "respect" can bmean being polite to someone. I also know that it can mean admiring someone/something.

what skid decisions do you think you should have a say in?

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Thu, 12/02/2010 - 11:02pm

Do you think you should have a say in all skid decisions, i.e. what do you do when a decision needs to be made about school, medical, etc.? What is your reasoning behind your opinions on this subject? Does DH discuss these issues with you and include you in the decision-making process, or are you only included in more minor skid decisions?

I'm a CP SM so I am involved in the major skid decisions, even more so since BM abandoned the kids.

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