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A divorce story with a good ending!

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Everybody knows about Bruce Willis' & Demi Moore's divorce. I admire how they were able to split amicably and put their kids first. Their kids truly seem to be decent people. Their eldest daughter had this to say about her dad and stepdad's friendship:

http://www.usmagazine.com/news-rumer-willis-its-not-weird-ashton-kutcher...

It's so nice to hear about a bioparent and stepparent getting along!

to BMs...

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I read a lot of the posts on here about all the BMs we have to deal with, and all the grief they give us. So I decided to write this to BMs with some pointers in it for them.

To BMs...

1. A lot of us have out own kids to mother. There are also those of us who don't have kids. We aren't trying to take your place as their mom. We can be additional parent figures in their lives and care about them and do fun things with them without trying to be their mom.

The boy in PA's being charged as an adult...

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What do you think of this? I really don't know what to think of this! I get the feeling there was a lot of PAS going on and guilt-parenting as well. Do you think he should be charged as an adult? I definitely do think he should be penalized but I think he is going to need extensive therapy. I hope that, if anything, this case will make the judicial system look much more into PAS and come up with severe consequences for those who do it, and provide help for the parents and kids who are damaged by it!

Stepparents and future stepparents-PLEASE READ THIS- following these tips will save you a lot of grief & drama

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When I became I SM, I thought I could make things with BM better. I thought my stepkids would love me. I thought that my husband would start standing up to BM and being a parent to his kids. BOY WAS I WRONG. For the next few years, my life was he**. I thought we could all be one big happy family. I think a lot of us here thought the same thing with our respective blended families, too.

Tips for anyone with kids considering remarrying/committing to their partner or is remarried or in a committed relationship

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These are ideas I have thought up by looking back on my experiences as an SD and SM. Please let me know what you think, and feel free to add your own ideas as well.

For those who have children that are getting/considering getting remarried or committing to someone:

a) While mandating that your children treat your spouse with courtesy and respect, give them permission to not like your partner. Then they don't feel pressured into liking your partner and it might make it easier on them in terms of accepting your partner.

My letter to BM

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BM,

I hate you. I hate your guts. I think you are disgusting for how you treat your children.

When you had custody you said some really nasty & untrue things to the SDs about DH and me. You tried to alienate them from their dad and were successful for a long time. You told your children to say mean things when I miscarried behind my back.

Another CS thread...

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I was reading the New York Times the other day and I came across a very interesting article about the world' current financial crisis. I guess what the European Union is doing is requiring all of the banks they are financially helping to provide them (the European Union) with reports on the values of their portfolios.

Here is the article, but it's just on a different webpage:

http://www.iht.com/articles/2009/02/10/business/ecofin.4-427202.php

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