Not sure where else to turn to.
I know that it has been a while since I posted. If you want the history of my family read past blogs.
Things have been super rough and tough with DS 12. Part-time virtual is not helping the situation but nothing we can do about it. Anyway, new baby is here and DS 5 months is doing great he is such a cute little stinker. Anyway, I need some advice or hear from people who have been through what I am going through now.
DS 12 was asked to watch baby boy for 10 to 15 minutes 3 days a week while DH gets a shower after work. I am still at work so I am not home. All DS 12 had to do was sit in the playpen area for that time and make sure baby boy is good and does not get hurt. Well I found out one time when DH came out DS12 was not in the playpen but outside of it messing with dogs. He was not watching the baby. Last night on my way home baby was apparently crying bloody murder when I got home I could tell it was one of those cries where something was hurting like he was in pain. I grab him he still crying I check him out and look him over push on the areas to see if he gets worse. The only thing I saw is a red mark near his one ear like he got scratched or bumped his head.
I calmly ask DS what happened he said nothing, he did nothing. Not really sure what happened and I will never know at this point as DS will never tell us the truth about what happened. DH says he heard something bang after he turned the shower off. We think that DS was not really watching baby again and baby bonked his noggin pretty good. DS did say that he was not really watching him and was staring at the dogs instead. We ask well why weren't you watching the baby, his response "like you and daddy always watch him when he is in there?" This boy has attitude and a mouth these days. We do when he is laying in there, as the baby is rolling all over the place and grabbing at stuff only time we leave him unattended in the play area is if he is in his bouncer.
DS 12 said he did nothing wrong and it was not his fault. Nothing is ever this kid's fault literally nothing. We are at our wit's end this kid seems not to care about anything. DH and I both get the feeling that he didn't even feel bad that the baby got hurt and was crying for almost an hour. I do not think he hurt him intentionally but he was neglectful. This is the same kid that asks to hold him for a nap and sat there for over an hour doing it. Of course, we were around and watching him hold the baby. Now I am thinking he only did that to kinda say hey look I am doing good, see I can behave to get what I want. When no one is looking he can't even watch him for 10 minutes.
Has anyone ever dealt with older half-siblings and having a new baby? Does it ever get better? I have not been able to focus on the baby at all this week when I got home from work. DS has been not doing his school work and I have been having to be on him about it and go through it with him, or he does something stupid to get in trouble and it is all about DS yet again. Yes DH deals with it at times too. DS12 just will not let up on me. I am sitting feeding the baby and DS keeps asking me stuff about helping with school work, carrying the laptop in with him while I am feeding. I have every time ask daddy. I am holding baby and DS literally looking at me asks me to play a game or do something for him. Even his aunt who thinks the sun shines out his rear end noticed this last visit and said "bad timing to him". It is non stop with him. Has anyone here been through this before?