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The skids need more help than the bios are offering

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Submitted by baseballgirly on Thu, 10/20/2011 - 2:24pm

My SS10 is signed up for councelling and should be going soon. I've mentioned again and again to SO that he needs help. I'm not sure what it took for BM to realize it, but he is signed up to go now. So that is one good thing. It's not a victory for me since that poor child is the only one that suffered in the meantime... but at least me being on the outside really can see inside at what a child needs. I'm not actually clueless about children just because I don't have any (as SO points out in our arguements)

How many really think about leaving???

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Submitted by baseballgirly on Wed, 10/19/2011 - 9:45am

I've read a lot of blogs lately. They are all different with one very common thread. It seems most of us are so fed up we mention leaving quite often. Like myself, I mention leaving because I'm so terribly unhappy I would like a means to an end. Will I ever get the courage to leave? Probably not. Will I harp and complain about my step kids?? Most definately.

What holds us here?? Do we all love our SOs that much more than we hate our SKs??? My SO is RESPONSIBLE for how his kids turned out... that right there is a factor in leaving alone!!!

Reading others blogs, I'm not sure my issues deserve a rant!!!

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Submitted by baseballgirly on Mon, 10/17/2011 - 11:56am

I've been reading others blogs quite a bit lately. Turns out I'm slightly addicted to this site now!! :jawdrop: There are a lot of really, really crappy situations out there that make me like mine just a litte bit more!! Well... I still don't like my situation.... I guess I'm just glad I'm not in theirs!! (That sounds bad I know... but it is what it is)

No support from my family

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Submitted by baseballgirly on Sat, 10/15/2011 - 7:51am

Anyone ever try venting to their family members and get told they are too negative or hate too much?? ?

I tried venting to my mom a bit this morning and her reply was "you hate a lot". Really???? I have two strangers that are messy, spoiled and whinny, come into MY HOUSE and call it their home. I don't know how to be positive about that!!! I do hate them. I hate them coming over, I hate their attitudes, I hate their clothes, I hate when they tell little lies to get out of stuff or make excuses....

Even when they're not here, they're all I think about.

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Submitted by baseballgirly on Thu, 10/13/2011 - 11:24am

They have been gone back to their BMs for 4 days now and we don't get them again for a week and a bit... yet they are all I think about in the meantime!!! My entire thought process is taken up with 2 boys that I don't like!! I think about the reasons I don't like them, the things they've done in the past, the things they do that their father doesn't notice when they're here.....

THANK GOD THEY'RE GONE FOR 2 WEEKS AGAIN!!!!

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Submitted by baseballgirly on Tue, 10/11/2011 - 9:46am

Generally I count down the days of the weekend when the skids are here. I hate every minute they are around. I no longer spend any time with them and I don't feel bad about that. I didn't know when CL and I started dating that I would end up being annoyed by absolutely everything these kids do!!!

I even get myself worked up before anything even happens by playing scenarios in my mind of what I THINK will happen.

Cut your own nails at what age???

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Submitted by baseballgirly on Sun, 10/09/2011 - 4:36pm

The youngest SS8 just learned how to cut his own nails. I made his father teach him this summer. Turns out that finger nails does not include toenails! This kid had nails on his toes so long that they were curling under his toes!!! WHERE THE HELL IS THIS KIDS FULL TIME CUSTODIAL MOTHER?!??! Disgusting!!!!! Why is this child 8 years old and still having everything done for him?!?? When is "I don't know how, no one showed me" going to be over!?!?? I'm so sick and damn tired of hearing "I don't know how".

Eat all they want??? Ever a limit??

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Submitted by baseballgirly on Sun, 10/09/2011 - 7:05am

Yesterday was a family supper with CLs family. We went and brought the kids as it was our weekend to have them. It was a buffet type deal. The kids went back in THREE TIMES for more on their plates and then their dad let them each have 3 desserts before finally saying anything!! The reason it bothers me is because both kids are overweight and I'm thinking letting them eat as much as they want all the time is mostly the reason for that! There are no rules or boundaries! Eat until you can't stuff your face anymore seems to be the rule. Then after 3 trips, CL asks "Have you had enough??

When will they grow out of coming over??!?!?!?!!?

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Submitted by baseballgirly on Thu, 10/06/2011 - 3:30am

Is there an age I should be looking forward to when the boys won't want to make the hour drive each way to come and see their dad every second weekend?? Will they grow out of wanting to come for sleepovers to share a room here when all the comforts of their primary home and friends are an hour away???

I'm just searching for a means to an end. Love CL.... don't want to break up with him, just his kids.

Already unhappy and they aren't even here for the weekend yet!!

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Submitted by baseballgirly on Wed, 10/05/2011 - 12:35am

Today is Tuesday. I've already been brooding since yesterday just wondering about how selfish my CLs kids will be this weekend. They want all of the attention... they want to always do things that cost money... they don't clean up after themselves and I hate when they come over. They aren't necessarily bad kids. The crap that pisses me off is probably perfectly normal. But, it's not normal in MY life. I don't like messes. I don't like kids needing to be entertained. I don't like whinning and crying and they do both. They are gross and dress sloppy and eat too much.

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