I just...ugh. BM continually makes things out to be the worst they can be. She is also a liar. She has had so many cancers and diseases she should have been dead and buried 3 yrs ago. And I think that is where they get it from. 2/3 have now been in serious therapy. And 1 of them has had a 72 hr hold in a psych ward for homicidal thoughts. I do not take mental illness lightly..I don't. I do believe they are faking. As soon as the "illness" or "problem" can conveniently go away it does. They use it to get attention. I know they do.

DH was gone for 7 months(Job obligation), and I completely parented DD1 alone. Now he is home and being a great dad, playing with her, changing her, feeding her. He is a great dad in the way he cares for her. But when he tries to tell me what to do with her I want to honestly tell him to shove it. When I first had dd I referred to him for everything. EVERYTHING. He already had 3 kids, he knows best right?

How do I continue to live my life comfortably in my home, and continue to raise my daughter when I feel attacked by my stepchildren? Nothing was done with malicious intent to them. I simply asked/told them to do something children are expected to do every day of their lives. I fully intend/have disengaged. However the dreaded arrival of their return comes tomorrow.(or at least 1/2) ss13 just "doesnt know if he can return" :jawdrop: I need advice on how to proceed without attacking.