Yesterday we went to an art event with SD and DH told her she's going back to BM's after. SD asks if she can just stay the night because she doesn't want to go to BM's. So SD calls BM and of course the request is declined. I know that BM doesn't have to agree but why not? DH leaves for work by 7am and could've had SD to school with more than enough time to be ready.

DH and I got married in the courthouse almost 7 years ago. My parents were a little upset that we didn't do a wedding for the family which is understandable. DH and I want to have a reception in my parent's back yard because they have a beautiful horse property in the valley.

DH and I were talking about the guest list and it will probably be close to 100 people. I think DH was half joining but half serious and he asked me if we should invite BM. I told him that would include her boyfriend, their toddler and his ex in-laws.

My parents throw a huge fall party every year and it's tonight. I am picking DH up from work and we're going there together. DH texts and asks if I'll pick SD up. It's not his weekend but I guess he worked something out with BM. I don't want to be alone with her but I say ok to help him out since he's really busy today.

I text BM and tell her I'm leaving soon and ask if SD is ready. No reply. About 10 minutes later I get a call from BM's phone. It's SD. This is how it goes:

Me: "Hey SD, your dad said I can pick you up for my dad's party. Are you ready?"

Sorry to blog hog today but I had a funny memory reading the post about a dog going between homes for 50/50 visitation. My story isn't the same situation but made me think.

About 5 years ago DH and I bought SD a goldfish for BM's house because she wanted one after we went to the pet store. Bad idea buying a pet for the other parent's home but I can learn from my mistakes. The fish died a week or two later because it was never fed and the water was never changed.