It was a skid weekend and it turned out really great. SD did some homework on Saturday and had a friend over for most of the day yesterday. As a preteen, she can be moody and sassy but we nip that in the bud. BM just can't figure it out.

She's almost always grounded at BM's for one reason or another. It is just not necessary at our house. SD gets along with us much better and we don't have to yell at her like BM and her boyfriend do.

I am a skid. I have a SM and we have a history of exchanging nasty words and almost 20 years of generally not getting along. She is very high strung and I think she hates that DH and I are loved by all of their friends and her daughter and the boyfriend aren't. Also, she always treated me differently than her daughter and my dad never appreciated that. She never allowed my dad to discipline her daughter but she could boss me around and demean me as she pleased. I am beneficiary to everything because my dad didn't get remarried until 50.

I had started documenting for DH in 2014 right after the CO had been made- I forgot that I had started a notebook! I'm sure 98% is considered hearsay but I do have actual dates/ times of many events.

I stopped documenting for over a year because DH thought that the courts wouldn't care given his past experiences with the GUBM (victim) in court. That poor, poor child has been through some crap- all inflicted by her mother, by the way. No wonder SD needs therapy!

Did this happen to your husband? Was it because of lack of legal assistance? DH and I started talking last night and I told him that we owe it to SD to fight for her, even if we only see her for 1 more hour. She's begged us for over 4 years for just EQUAL time. She doesn't even care to live with us full time right now. She just needs her dad.

One poster said that since SD has turned into a preteen and the CO hasn't been updated since 2013 that that may be considered a change of circumstance. I'm not sure. SD hasn't gone to counseling yet so maybe just see what happens there?