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Well it is what we thought "ALIENATION" again.......
I posted yesterday about BM trying to use an pseudo illness to keep SD from attending our Harvest Fest party at our home. Well after speaking with the doctor a second time and getting written notification from the doc - SD is cleared to visit with her father. She does not have the flu - or strep throat. Doc says she has no limitation and has no reason not to visit with DH for his weekend visitation - which just happens to fall on Halloween.
Hoping it is not what it is....................... BM back at it again maybe? Geez!
Every year - for probably about 12 years now - instead of celebrating Halloween, My family and I have a "Harvest Fest". It started out at my church and sometimes we have it at different families members homes. Well it is at my home this year. We all dress our kids up in some type of costume - we eat chili and hot dogs - we give gift bags for the kids- we have a game night and watch movies.
Geez, Really it has only been a month... and we are back at it again.....
After we left court in Sept, the lawyer gave a really stearn talking to BM and the new court order really gives her consequence for her alienation tatics. We were liking the fact that there was no drama since the court case and really hoping that BM liked the peace as well.
Well, last night DH called BM to let her know, he had received SD's report card and the teacher requested they work with SD on her phonics as she is falling behind on her reading skills. SD is in 1st grade.
Things are going good right now....... Praying nothing is up her sleeve!!!!!
Things are going wonderful right now. Every since the court case in September things have been great between DH and BM and the rest of the family.
Why could it have not been like this before court and having the judge threaten her with taking away SD if she continues her bullcrap. It was not necessary! I guess it was brought home more so cause she took us to court to try and take joint custody and visitation from DH and make me look like a child abuser.
My 2 cents worth........
After reading a post today - claiming just about all (except for two) SM's come here only to bash BM's... I just had to leave a comment. What happens when the roles are reversed? What happens when the SM is the one who tried to reach out and was met with terrible opposition? Why is the SM to be chastised when she finds a website to be able to share those things that anger her in a situation where she has no control?
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BM is something else and a terrible lier.....
to boot. At SD's school last week for a program she was participating in.....
The administrator, current year teacher and last year teacher commented that it was so nice that DH and his ex-wife get along so well considering the court case last month.
DH was taken by surprise and didn't know what to say.
Appartently BM must be telling the school she and my DH were married and got divorced and that is why she subpeoned them to court last month. To testify on SD's progress in school. Supposedly they had to determine custody.
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Changed Outlook......... BM issues / SM issues......
After reflecting back on the court case last week, and issues DH and I have had to deal with BM (DH for 6 years - myself for about 2 years - since she met me and we got married)
I have come to a couple realizations..... and have decided to stop allowing BM into my marriage and home emotionally.... She will no longer be a topic of discussion on any type of regular basis... at all!
DH and myself have spent so much energy on trying to figure her out, trying to keep her at least peaceful, and discussing her and her actions. Well, no more.
Court Case Update.....(Not what we wanted ... but progress)
Well to our surprise BM went to court saying she worked out the differences with DH, SM and his family. They came to the table ready to negotiate.
So the judge instead of actually letting the hearing go forward. They worked out a new court order.
None of our evidence had to be submitted - so we still have all of it... in case she messes up again (which i am confident she will) we will be able to submit it to the court instead of losing it in this case.
It has been put in the court order......
Court Case is tomorrow............Custody Battle
The court case is finally happening tomorrow...... 9 Sept at 9am in North Carolina. So, my DH, myself, my mother-in-law, sister-in-law, and father-in-law are heading to NC at 4 am to go and face these allegations (false, of course)after BM started this entire process of filing affidavits and motions against us in November 2008. It seems like this has taken forever. The abuse allegations started in Jan and has been continued 3 times before.
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Ok - this is the last pick up before the court case......
DH is leaving today around 330p to go and pick up his daughter for this weekend/holiday visit...!
I am not able to travel with him this time as i am at work this time since i rotated and let the other folks in the office be off for the long weekend.
ANYWAYS.... We will see how this pick up goes. DH has taken the camcorder with him that he will have on from the time he pulls up to when he leaves.