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Keeping Employment Status To Myself … for now

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One of my no boundary relatives (who always tries to demand immediate or next day meetups) asked to come over ... at the  end of the week (because they assume I'm working for my employer) lol!!!

I'm thinking to myself "wow sufficient advance notice for once in their lives" but I realize that when people think you create your own schedule (ex self employed), you are not working for employer, you're stay at home parent, etc they assume they can bombard your time. 
 

OT - Employer Furlough?.....Pissy Rant

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A few weeks ago, I saw a chat where a few of my colleagues saying they were called into a meeting where it was explained to them they'd be let go in 1-2 weeks due to business needs. Other colleagues including myself didn't get that meeting so I thought I'd be good. 

Until I log in and look at my calendar and see nothing on there. 

So I can only assume I met the same fate as the others but at least they had the luxury of a couple weeks advance notice. 

As The New Year Approaches

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I'm reflecting on the dysfunctional dynamics of a guilt riddled Disneyland dad (and letting this stuff go)  

One instances comes to mind for me was when I was heading to a date with my now ex fiancé. Somehow I ended up driving ... but glad I did because when he realized he left his phone (aka his B. Beck n Call mobile pinging device) I said "nope we have reservations and we MUST be on time" ... then I floored out of the driveway and on to our destination. 
 

When You Feel Second To His Ex and Kids....

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This is constantly how I felt with my ex-fiance (more like 5th to his ex and kids) and one of the major reasons I could not move foward with marrying him. 

When I brought it up...I got accused of being 'jealous of his kids', got told "I'm doing this 'for the kids'"/"I feel guilty my kids are in 2 households"/"I don't want my kids to suffer"......  and any other excuse to justify the behavior with minimal improvements

With his ex-wife and kids everything was an emergency/a need/urgent

My daughters father is a worthless POS

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And if I didn't love my kiddo as I do ... I totally regret giving that weak loser the time of day. 
 

So after this a$$clown pretended to be broke and refused to exercise his parenting time (he lives out of town and made more money in a couple years than most people make in their lifetime...he's only pretending to be poor so that I feel guilty and he can easily con me out of my limited resources) ... I reported his b*tch a$$ to the lawyers and court system. 
 

Just wanted to say Thanks!

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I'm super thankful for all the people on here who provided insight, support, words of advice, and spent time reading my unlimited rants (sorry)

I can't say thank y'all enough

Feeling a bit lonely (I guess it takes a bit of time to break habits like calling someone daily, checking in, sleeping next to someone, etc) and getting adjusted to being back single again

Also feeling a little disgruntled like if that dude had only .... (listened more, took my side more, put me first more, etc) 

Like y'all said can't change people, can't change the past 

In Shock Disneyland Dad

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So I get a call from the dudes brother (he was the majority owner of the house) and I told him while I deeply care for his brother, I moved out for a multitude of reasons

The dude called up my mom crying and saying how he felt blindsided yet how much he loved me and never tried to hurt me during the relationship (I assume to absolve his guilt around looking like "the bad guy" so me leaving while he was at work could be blamed be all on me...whatever)

In my new place

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In my new place. 
 

I called him right after he got off work and told him. He said he was about to call me and ask what we were doing for dinner and instead came home to an "empty" house. 
 

He was in shock and upset. And of course (after all the acting I had to do around him and his family this past month) he thought I was deceptive. 
 

I explained my rationale was due to that incident where he plopped on me and he claimed he was just playing, wouldn't physically hurt me, and hadn't done that again. 
 

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