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Countdown on CS...why does it seem that the clock goes backwards??
Just wanted to peek in to say hi to my fellow step-buddies (ladies and men).
Also, I'm curious if anyone else out there has been with their DH/SO/BF long enough where the skids have finally "aged out" of CS and the BM is finally off your payroll.
1. How does BM deal with the major decrease in income once CS has stopped and how has it affected your relationship?
2. Anyone with crazy BM's that tried some crazy ways to get CS extended? Did they win or lose?
3. What has your life been like post-CS ending?
CS laws and 50/50 custody
In doing some research about the New York State CS laws & the history behind it, I learned that these laws (as well as most U.S. states' CS laws) are based on one basic premise: BOTH PARENTS ARE CHARGEABLE(OBLIGATED) WITH THE FINANCIAL SUPPORT OF THEIR CHILD.
With that said, I found it very strange that in a TRUE 50/50 joint custody (physical & legal) situation, that either parent should be legally obligated to pay CS to the other parent - assuming that BOTH parents are healthy and capable of working full-time.
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Anyone feeling overwhelmed and thinking about leaving this wonderful "step" world? I'm on the edge and NEED ADVICE...
I need my fellow steptalkers to help me out here...
I feel very lost and unfocused. I can't find my "old self". Not sure if this makes any sense to anyone out there. Does anyone else feel this way in this crazy world of stepparenting???
I used to be happy all the time, rarely frustrated or in a bad mood...now it's hard to find happiness
I used to be organized, neat, meticulous all the time...now I have an office full of clutter and don't know where to start
First time at a "family" function where BM will be there - any advice from those who have been there??
In a few weekends, BM and I will be at a bridal shower together at a restaurant - it is the FIRST EVER function we have ever been to (literally having to be in the same enclosed room) at the same time. The bridal shower is being thrown for SS26's fiancee'. Her mother & BM sent me an invitation, which I hesitantly accepted (after discussing with BF and him feeling that I "belong" there for his son's sake).
Does your BF/DH EVER enforce ANY rules/consequences with skids? Am I crazy? Thinking of leaving...need ADVICE!! UPDATE!!
OK, so for the most part, I have successfully disengaged from skids & how BF is raising them with his "lack of parenting" style. However, I am really starting to think that these BF's/DH's are just plain insane when it comes to their little angels. Do any of you ever experience anything similar and does it make you feel as crazy as it makes me feel? Like YOU'RE the "bad guy"?
BF gets mad at me because I don't want to combine $$ when we marry??? NEED ADVICE!
BF & I were sitting peacefully eating dinner yesterday evening. Somehow, the topic of us getting married/future comes up. Mind you, we've discussed marriage many times before, yet he hasn't even asked me to marry him yet - no engagement ring after 6+ years of dating. But anyway, I digress...
BF: "How much money is appropriate to give a son for his wedding?"
Some background:
SD15 has failed 2 classes once again...and barely passing the others. It's REPORT CARD TIME!!
BF has told SD15 in the past (MANY times) that if she fails a subject again, he's taking her cell phone away from her. SD15 is in 10th grade now. Just to give some quick background:
SD15 failing classes again...anyone been through this?
Just wondering if any of my fellow STers have been through what I'm going through with SD15, who is in 10th grade right now, and how your skid turned out years later (from those who are now dealing with adult skids):
Is BM still not over your BF/FH/DH? Especially 3 years AFTER their divorce??
I need your help, ladies (and from the guys, too please!). Also, if any ladies on here are both BM's & SM's, please chime in also.
Despite the fact that BF & I have been together for over 6 years (living together for 2), there have been some inappropriate comments made by BM (my BF's ex-wife) to the skids (SD15 & SS12) that, LUCKY FOR ME, skids have actually been telling BF & I about!